AIBU to consider going on holiday with the man who has just ditched me?

[BillericayDuckie]

Ok, that may be overly dramatic....

As background, last week my dp of 2 and a half years said he did not see a future with us as a couple and romantically we should go our separate ways.

I am gutted, but have to admit we have become more friends than lovers. I have therefore found somewhere else to live and am making plans to move out.

So far, despite plenty of tears on my part, the separation has been amicable and I will continue to work for his company.

We have a holiday booked for the end of the month that he paid for. Yesterday he said that he can't get a refund on the holiday and asked if I would still like to go as friends. If not, he will go alone.

I am torn. On one hand I was obviously looking forward to the holiday and I'm not sure when I will get the opportunity again due to having to manage on my own financially.

On the other hand, I'm feeling that I should concentrate on my fresh start. It's not definite yet, but the tenancy on my new home is likely to start around the time of the holiday. I also need my parents to pick up my dc from school on the day we would return (the holiday was arranged when they are spending time with their father) and I know my parents won't understand if I go (let's just say that xp is not their favourite person).

WWYD?

I did this. Once. We had both paid for it. It was BAD. Don't do it.

I wouldn't go. It's perfectly possible to be good friends with exes, but it's just too soon. You need to get your life organised. I'd be having a look around for a new job as well. A total fresh start.

Been there, done that, all got far too painful and confusing, as a pp said, and ended up with me drunkenly begging him to take me back, and him deciding (quite rightly) to run for the hills!

At the time I KNEW it was a recipe for disaster but justified it to myself with the 'already booked and paid for' line; deep down I thought I was in with a chance.

Just. Don't.

I don't see the villa as a plus, personally. It means that there will be less opportunities to meet other people than in a hotel.

I would also think about how you would feel if he bought somebody else back one night.

Dont do it. Look for a new job as soon as you can as well.

Taking the flight only is a good idea - could you then go somewhere else, hotel, hostel or whatever, and not see each other for the duration of the trip?

Ok. General consensus is bad idea then - especially from those who have tried it!

The job situation is going to be just as difficult. I will be working remotely from home but he will be my boss. It is however, going to be hard to find a job on the same salary with the flexibility to look after my dc's I currently have.

God! How do I get myself into these situations?!