Long time lurker, first time poster..
My brother always had a difficult relationship with our parents and was estranged from them for the last ten years of their lives. Treated them very badly and swindled them out of a huge inheritence, amongst other things. In May my brother was diagnosed with Cancer and so was I a year ago. A few people (friends, family) who know what he did to my parents have openly said to me 'it's karma, he got what he deserved' and 'what goes around, comes around'. At the weekend a close friend commented that my parents 'would be looking down and having the last laugh' at his situation (they wouldn't.) Whilst my rational head tells me they mean nothing personal it hurts as I too have had Cancer. Did I 'deserve' it too? Is it my karma? Of course not. When these comments have been made I do say 'well I didn't deserve it did I? But it hurts. No-one deserves it, but I do find it upsetting. WWYD in this situation, AIBU to feel hurt by this?