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New path right down our boundary

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RoundTheBend · 01/02/2007 00:31

We bought a house a year ago, right next to a school. We knew it would be busy in the road in the mornings and afternoons but thought "what the heck", we would just avoid going out/coming in at those times.
We bought the house specifically because it had a large garden. We have a ds who has AS and wanted him to have lots of space to play/chill out. We cannot let him out in the road to play with other children, so thought great, get a big garden and he has room to do what he wants and can relax.
The right hand boundary of our garden overlooks their playing fields. It is a lovely green view. A few days ago, a load of diggers turned up. They are putting a new pathway from the front of our house, alongside our boundary to the school. Now, part of me agrees that there needs to be a new pathway because traffic congestion in this road is awful and if it helps alleviate the road rage in the mornings, good! But, part of me is absolutely devastated. We shall have no privacy whatsoever now. The school did not even have the curtesy of notifying us and we are the ONLY neighbours affected by this.
I rang the Council and apparently it is part of their "permitted development" and needs no planning consent or neighbour notification. The Council apologised on behalf of the school in writing for their lack of manners! They said it was not a very good example of a PR exercise. (They had to reply in writing because I emailed them).
I want the school to pay for a 6ft fence alongside the said boundary. At the moment there is a 3ft wire mesh fence which belongs to then so we will be oggled by all and sundry. The actual playing fields that we overlook are only used half a dozen times a year at the moment.
It disturbs me as well that between 8.15am and 9.15am we will not have any privacy and then again from 2.45pm and 4.45pm. The times are because there are infant, junior and senior school children that would use the path and the school gates will not be closed until 6pm at night when the caretaker goes home. I say 4.45pm because that is the latest the senior school children are allowed to be in school. DS will NOT want to go out in the garden if he thinks others can see him. He has a horrible time at school as it is, and if the bullies find out that they can walk past our garden now, he will be devastated. They can touch the fence from the path if they wanted too.
Now, am I being unreasonable to ask the school to erect a 6ft fence or even to consider some payment towards it? We could not possibly afford it all at the moment.
I did mention to the council planning officer that what happens when the children see me topless in the garden? He said he could not possibly comment on that!.
I feel that strongly about it that I think I would go topless in the garden!!!! I would not be breaking any laws going topless (breasts are for feeding according to the House of Lords and not obscene) but I know the other mothers would call me names but when you have had to fight for a AS ds for years, you get to the stage where you don't give a stuff what people think! I say that, but I do really care and I want the school to be reasonable on this. Has anyone got any suggestions at all please? Or am I totally unreasonable?

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Greensleeves · 01/02/2007 00:40

I understand your feelings on this, I would try a few other routes before you start flasing your credentials all over the shop

I would write a polite but fairly forceful letter detailing everything you've written here about your son/your reasons for choosing the house/the effect the new path will have on you, adn send it to the school, CC'd to the council's planning dept and your MP.

Also might be worth talking to CAB for advice, and is there a local residence association or other parish busybodies group? They can be surprisingly useful.

Otherwise - can you afford to get some screening trees/extra fencing yourself?

Good luck with it anyway.

RoundTheBend · 01/02/2007 00:48

Thank you Greensleeves. We could not, at this moment in time, possibly afford to fence the whole garden and trees would take too long to grow up. Spring is on its way and it would be a shame not to be able to use the garden. We want to be reasonable and we want the school to be reasonable but I have a funny feeling they will not be.

I say I want to flash my boobs but to be honest, if you blinked you would miss them. It is just the principle I suppose. Total privacy to no privacy.

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Greensleeves · 01/02/2007 00:53

Oh, I do understand, it must be a real blow for you

You might get something out of the school though - it can't hurt to try.

SofiaAmes · 01/02/2007 04:43

I think a few well placed posters of classical art (the very nude kind) might just do the trick!

NotQuiteCockney · 01/02/2007 07:34

My neighbour is next to a primary school playground. They've improved the wall between them a lot. Perhaps because he sunbathes in the altogether, or near enough? (I wish they'd put a wall between me and him when he did that [nauseated]).

foxtrot · 01/02/2007 07:46

RTB ring your county council and your local council to obtain the names of your local councillors. Then contact them all, politely, and invite them round to see the problem from your point of view. Get them on your side. If you can get one of them to take up your case, they should be prepared to lobby the school and councils on your behalf (that is what they were elected for). Failing that, call the local newspaper and shame them into doing something. Good luck.

mummydoit · 02/02/2007 13:09

If the school won't pay for the fence, could you find fund for it elsewhere? Are there any charities where you are who help kids with AS? They might be prepared to contribute to the cost to help out your son. Could you approach groups like the Rotary Club or the Lions? They might be able to fundraise for you? Failing that, get your local paper to do an article about your situation, emphasising the devastating effect this pathway is going to have on your son, and you might find individuals coming forward with offers of help. Maybe even a fencing company would help you out in return for some good PR. Good luck, I hope you get something sorted out.

RuleBritannia · 04/09/2012 19:38

What happened in the end, please?

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 04/09/2012 20:43

Britannia this thread is 5 years old! The OP has probably moved house by now. Try PM...

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