AIBU or is she taking the biscuit?

[Beesknees1221]

Opinions greatly appreciated, this might be be a bit lengthy but will try to keep as short as possible! My neighbour lives in a flat upstairs and she cares for her elderly mum who is very unwell. Over the past year or so I have helped her on numerous occasions, the lady has trouble with her mobility. She is very overweight and struggles to drive/walk far/ walk up and down the steps to their flat. She will often text me asking if I can pick some things up/take pets to vet/ take her bin bags down which I have never said no to. However, I can't help but think she is starting to take the biscuit? The other week when I took her pet to the vet she asked me if I would mind "painting and resealing her bathroom". This week she asked me to pick up some things for her from a specific shop, which i wouldn't be able to get to till this weekend as I work full time and it closes at 5. When I said this, she said ok that's fine. I then texted her on Friday to double check what she needed- and in response to some of the items she said "don't worry about that I will get them later".... To which I think why the hell am I rushing around trying to help Her when she freely says she will go do it herself?!

So- am I just horrible for not wanting to help her anymore or is she just starting to take the ?

Birds. Not everyone has been brought up to be assertive. That could be why they struggle to say no.

"I don't understand people, who can't say they can't, tbh." That statement really riled me.

Thanks all for your responses, glad to know I won't be considered horrible for not helping her out.

Birds- I see your point. I'm sorry you have been unwell and are on the mend now.

As mummyof pointed out, I am not an assertive person and I do find saying no difficult as I feel guilty. However I will work on this as obviously I should not be saying yes to things and then moaning on the Internet after!

To be clear, last time I did some errands for her it was because she told me she couldn't drive at the time. Yes I should not of assumed when she asked me again it was for the same reason.

It may be easier to start by saying "no" to text requests first, as you won't feel quite so put on the spot then. Then move onto saying "no" when she asks you in person, if it's something you don't want to do.

But really, there's no need to feel guilty for politely refusing to decorate a bathroom, or politely refusing to make a special trip out to the shops for her. There's other ways round things like that - she could hire someone professional to sort out her bathroom, or have a go at doing it herself. She could use internet shopping, or get a bus or taxi to the shops. She's unlikely to take it personally if you don't agree to every request, no matter how cheeky.