I work in a team of about 19 people, most of whom are female. When we have team after work outings, I don't always go as they just all want to get drunk (guys and ladies) and that just doesn't interest me at all, so if they're planning a "big night" then I tend to decline, or say I'm busy. I do go for other things things though, leaving dos, a few drinks, quizzes etc. There are a few of us who are the same - not going to go out for the sake of it.
Today, after we'd all finished for the day, pretty much all the women in the team (minus maybe one or two) all left together and were apparently going to a local restaurant/bar for cocktails. The team are spread out over 3 banks of desks and the majority of the team are on 2 banks of desks, with just me and two other girls on the final bank. The bank I am on is the closest to the door so they all had to pass my bank of desks, as they did they asked the two other girls if they were ready to go. They all left together and all obviously knew that there was a plan in place, so it wasn't a last minute decision to go...and from the looks of it I am the only female on the team who wasn't invited. I hadn't heard anyone talk about it (apart from one of the girls on my bank of desk who had asked about an hour earlier what the name of one of the cocktails they served at the restaurant was, as nothing else had been mentioned I just thought it was a bit of a random question) so it isn't just that someone had an idea a minute or two before everyone left for the day or anything.
Nothing had been mentioned out loud as far as I heard, so it must have been arranged by email at some point, and it just seems like a deliberate attempt to exclude me. This isn't the first time that selective people had been invited to something (the whole place is very clique-y, at times it feels like a school in a teen movie) but this is the first time I can remember where it is just the girls having a girls night out (or whatever) and that seems to make it even worse because it's so obvious that I've been excluded.
AIBU to be upset/hurt by this? I'm not having a particularly good time at work at the moment (other things are going on, nothing to do with the rest of the team) and I am feeling very stressed, unsettled, not sleeping properly etc so I don't know if I'm just being a bit overly sensitive but it has made me feel completely crap. It has felt like a long, awful week as it is and this has just made me feel even worse.