To tell him to fuck the fuck off?

[loopyfeckinlu]

Divorced 3 years. DS x 2 live with me full time. They are and always have been my world.

ExH is a twat, always has been. DS's have always come to me for advice etc.; as I am, shall we say, easier to talk to. (I don't slag exh off to them as I've always felt they will make up their own minds based on their own judgement).

I've been mum and dad all their lives. After split they saw Exh maybe twice a week in the evening which slowly got cancelled by him, dates changed etc. Now they see him an hour a week if that and it's always to suit his schedule.

I am 0 contact with Exh. Boys were 16/14 when we split, old enough to make own arrangements. I have no reason to communicate with Exh whatsoever.

I thought I had blocked him but got a message out of the blue this morning (following one disappointing AS result for DS2)....

'I feel we have both let him down and if we communicated about it him it would have been far better'

Ds is on medication which makes him tired a lot and throughout the year I've been working with his college to ensure he made up time, coursework etc., where he had time off.

WIBU to tell him to fuck off? I really want to be able to put an eloquent response together but raging so much at the moment that fuck off is all I can manage.

What a wnkr! Raptorina has the right idea.

Can I pint out that Badgers are a grossly maligned mustelid, and in no way responsible for bovine TB,sucking milk from chickens, or chewing through the foundations of multi-storey flats.

I suggest "wankarsehole" as an appropriate substitute.

*Point - not pint

(Fuckfuckfuckfuckfuckfuck)

I'd say ignore the whole thing ...

Oh my God he sounds exactly like my ex, he's a fucking tossed too. You did the best thing, cheeky fucker that he is, I feel angry for you

Well done for just blocking, I do think that's the right approach whilst imagining stapling his nuts to the floor

*tosser

Ignore it- he's doing it precisely to get a reaction.

Sounds like you've done a brilliant job in supporting your son.

Loopyfeck, read this [[https://www.gov.uk/disabled-students-allowances-dsas/what-youll-get]] if your son is goung to be going into further education.

Did the school write to the examining board about his medical circumstances affecting his grades? Make sure thwy do for A levels, .including time he has to take off lessons because of medical reasons.

Yes, people who judge like that can fuck right off to the other side of fuck and when they get there, keep fucking off some more. There, that feels so much better.

I feel we have both let him down and if we communicated about it him it would have been far better
This is fucking disgusting. Your ExH is disappointed about your DS's AS level results and is trying to make you feel guilty about it.

Don't fall for his bullshit.

Block him ASAP after you have replied with a mighty "fuck right off tosser".

Thanks Peace, that's very useful.

I don't believe the college did write to the examining board to be honest. They do have everything documented through the various meetings we had (because they had to). I am waiting to hear back from the head of year about what is best for next term. She's been really supportive, but in some respects I've often had the impression that she hasn't believed me about no options for other medication (we've been through the lot and this is the last one that has actually helped). She actually talked about the need for a home visit from the education welfare officer if his absence went down any more. Not sure what they expect to find but perhaps she thinks I'm running a brothel/am a drug dealer/keep slaves....

I did want to put a sarcastic comment to Wankarsehole about it being 20 years too late to start thinking about what a father figure should actually be. But no, I will be rest assured that as always he takes no responsibility for his actions and that it's always someone else's fault - no doubt mine. I'm sure it helps him sleep better at night!