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To be at a festival and wish everyone would just grow up!?

180 replies

bumbleclat · 26/08/2016 03:03

Each year I'm 'lucky' enough to be given free tickets to a very well known music festival which runs over four days (live nearby so organisers give local residents tickets to keep them sweet).

It's your usual hippy fest with lots of workshops, vege food, healing yurts and a variety of music.

Each year I go, I become more bored of the cliche hippydom, for example faces full of glitter, posh white youths wearing ironic vintage clothes, dub beats in the background, overpriced drinks, pious recycling regimes, home educated children called 'Oak' and 'Cloud' being wheeled around in metal wagons with fairy lights around the edges at 3am, the constant wondering from tent to tent, the illusion of freedom and the naive art work everywhere.

I must be getting old but these events just don't do it for me anymore, I see men and women in their fifties and sixties wearing fairy outfits and elf ears and it just gives me this, 'oh just grow up' reaction inside.

I dislike this judgemental threatened Katie Hopkins like beast that seems to rise up inside me each time, but I think next year I will just sell my much coveted ticket to a more appreciative visitor.

I am BU aren't I!?

OP posts:
Ackeeandsaltfish · 26/08/2016 05:25

Fairy wings seems a bit tame...

I went to a new age festival in a forest in the West Country where therecwas a raffle to spend a night in Oak's teepee (with Oak in it!) Plus there was primitive open shower/sauna arrangement complete with resident naked man (heard someone say that the local BBC radio station had interviewed him and he insisted being interviewed in the nude).

heron98 · 26/08/2016 06:40

YANBU. It sounds dire and I'd hate it too if it's any consolation.

WingsofNylon · 26/08/2016 06:46

I think the fact that you are getting the tickets for free and go each year have ruined it for you. Most people have paid, which means they have a bigger incentive to enjoy themselves (so that they don't feel they have wasted their money) and going each year would take the fun out of most things for me.

idontlikealdi · 26/08/2016 06:48

YABU for expecting there to be toilet paper ina festival toilet and not having your own!

Apart from that of you don't like it, don't go next year.

cornishglos · 26/08/2016 06:49

YABU. They must not grow up at a festival. YAB even more U for sitting on that loo seat...ugh!

chocoLit · 26/08/2016 06:59

Sell your tickets and let someone else enjoy it.

People's taste change & maybe you're just done with it all. I used to go to loads both as a punter & through my work. I stopped when 14yrs ago fell pregnant and haven't been as had the DC.

Now slowly going back but on a different level to different ones than I would go to in my twenties with DC in tow to give them an experience of them.

No harm in saying you don't enjoy something, just don't go.

Toffeelatteplease · 26/08/2016 06:59

Because real life is serious enough.....

I love a good bit of escapism

FoxesOnSocks · 26/08/2016 07:11

I think I'd prefer angel wings, they are bigger, or a pair of bat wings (proportionally sized): glittery of cause.

My baby would be in a trendy print (will need advise on that) sling and I shall call him or her Mushroom

Lifegavemelemons · 26/08/2016 07:12

I'm in my sixties. 5 yrs ago I went to my first festival, this year was my fourth and have had a wonderful time. I haven't got wasted at any of them and have thoroughly enjoyed seeing people with flowers in their hair doing the hippy thing - I was doing it first time round at their age Grin.

One of my best friends (older than me) has started going to Glastonbury with her dd and family to help with the kids and has been having a fantastic time, this year she met up with two of my DC who were there. My friend doesn't get wasted to have a good time either.

Maybe you should just put festival going on hold until you are old enough to really appreciate them?

HelenJey · 26/08/2016 07:19

I'm fond of different festivals. Last year I visited music festival Wizard. It was amazing!

NinjaLeprechaun · 26/08/2016 07:23

"I'm not advocating the use of elf ears on adults..."
I like my elf ears. So there.

On the other hand "grown up" holidays like going on a cruise or to a resort and sitting on the beach for a week is my idea of Hell. So to each their own.

dementedma · 26/08/2016 07:26

Am I the only person on here who has never been to a festival ever? Doesn't sound as if I've missed much though.

WanderingTrolley1 · 26/08/2016 07:27

Yanbu.

Even had word "festival" makes me shudder.

Zippidydoodah · 26/08/2016 07:29

I agree, it's a lovely bit of escapism. I adore festivals and can't wait until dp and I are brave enough to take our dc to one. We have a fair few under our belts!

I do think a nice fruity cider softens the edges a bit, and I've been whilst pregnant and it wasn't as fun! (Shoot me)

Please give your free ticket to someone who would love it.

bearofnothingness · 26/08/2016 07:29

sounds awful op, my idea of good music is a mosh pit few joints and pints and loud rock. no-one gives a shit what you look like and def not kids!

I only went to one festival (all dayer so does that count) and the music sounded awful, just too massive an area to fill with sound adequately.

I expect most people go to festivals to pose.

LordRothermereBlackshirtCunt · 26/08/2016 07:29

I know a couple like this who do proper kids day out day trips to places like the zoo
I wasn't aware that zoos are classified as children's entertainment. In fact, I'm pretty sue they're not and that it's perfectly OK for adults to have an interest in wildlife.

Thisismyalias · 26/08/2016 07:31

I live in a festival town. I always make sure i book this weekend off, so I don't have to deal with the festival goers.

gonzo155 · 26/08/2016 07:31

Some people on this thread are very judgemental. If people are having fun and not hurting anyone then how is it your business. I'll happily put my hands up to dressing up at a festival, playing Pokémon (it reminds me of my childhood) and going to theme parks like Disney as an adult without children with me.

hilbil21 · 26/08/2016 07:36

Is it beautiful days??

I can't go to a festival and enjoy it unless there's alcohol involved.... At least I'm honest lol

LaContessaDiPlump · 26/08/2016 07:38

I've not been either dementedma, and from this I don't feel like I've missed much!

I live in a city which hosts a massive music festival every year and the attendees descend on us like a plague of scruffy, gap yah scavengers who are only interested in cider and overpriced festival gear. It's put me off - well that and the £500 price tag Shock

pictish · 26/08/2016 07:38

If it's not for you, don't go.

I still fit in a festival most years and I'm 40. I see the same things as you do year after year, but I realise that the weekend is a bit of a blow out for most. They won't go to work with fairy wings on, or glitter on their face...a festival is a place for dressing up and letting it all out. Anything goes for those three or four days and I still think it's a nice thing.

What's so good about growing up anyway?

Ragwort · 26/08/2016 07:40

Why do you go? You couldn't pay me to do certain things - I have never been to a Festival and would never, in a million years chose to go to one. I have loads of hobbies and interests but really don't like any sort of 'paid environment where you are meant to be having fun'. But I try not to pass judgement on people who clearly enjoy Festivals or Pokemon - even if it is just not my thing. I am sure a lot of people think my hobbies are strange Grin.

Quickqu · 26/08/2016 07:41

So with you OP. I grew up in the south west in the bosom of such hippy nonsense and have no time for it.

bearofnothingness · 26/08/2016 07:41

not having the urge to wear glitter pictish Grin

pictish · 26/08/2016 07:42

Maybe you should just put festival going on hold until you are old enough to really appreciate them?

Ha ha Grin