to consider cancelling a holiday due to toddler's awful sleeping

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During a period of amazing good sleeping from my previously appalling sleeping DS (now nearly 2), I booked a week away to a self catering cottage.

Progress on sleep has completely reversed and we're back to spending hours sitting by his cot before he does to sleep.

I feel like cancelling the whole thing to be honest. It's just going to be a massive stress plus an extra 3 days of nap stress as at least in a normal week he spends 3 days in childcare.

I guess it's more of a WWYD - is there any point in going?

My rubbish sleeping ds did this. Started sleeping through 7pm - 6am from about 18mo. Then at about 2yo started waking in the night and getting up for the day at 5am. About the same time I had ds2. We've decided to limit his nap to no more than 1hr a day with thoughts to dropping it completely. He's 2.4yo now. Sigh.

Going against the grain I would cancel and wouldn't go, instead spend holiday money on full time all week childcare and enjoy the time off just me and DH.

12 years into parenting, our holidays are all about the children. Giving our children lots of different experiences, seeing our beautiful country, doing lots. This makes holidaying (with 4 children) busy busy busy. This year, with a toddler, it was so bloody exhausting and stressful I needed a weeks rest after we got home.

Honestly, if I didn't have older children who appreciated the holiday, I just wouldn't bother. A toddler doesn't really appreciate the change or the culture or anything like that. So unless you and DH are benefitting from the holiday, I'd rather take rest and relaxation at home instead any day.

Go. Our DS has just started STTN at 4 but it's never stopped is travelling all over the world, we've done cruises, self catering, Disney, city breaks, hotels. The one thing that each trip has in common, he slept like a dream😃. Stick him in the pushchair and enjoy nights out

I would cancel the holiday and spend the money on a sleep consultant!

I don't think a sleep consultant would help really. We've honestly worked so so hard at it ourselves (actually using a lot of FATE's advice) and we've had an amazing period where we put him in his cot at bedtime, leave the room and he sang himself to sleep. We basically did the gradualist of gradual withdrawals - really working on getting him more and more independent since he was teeny. Feeding to sleep, then cuddling, then patting/ stroking in cot/ holding his hand/ sitting by cot/ sitting further from cot/ out the door finally!

We just seem to have hit something, as I said I think it's teething plus hot plus maybe some separation anxiety. I'm just really hoping it'll settle down again because I can't deal with many more weeks like this one.

Go - we have been having a lot of sleep probs with 3yo DD and to my surprise, being away helped us start a new and better routine. Maybe keep a nursery day later in the week if you can, so you and DH can go for a nice lunch and debrief.

I think you should get a professional in. No offence meant to FATE but she does not have any qualifications or experience.
If your child's sleep is affecting major decisions then you need more radical action

Well I didn't cancel and it was ok! His sleep was no better but I enjoyed some days out.

Feel like a zombie with the sleep deprivation though. Feel pretty sorry for anyone relying on my legal advice next week :(

I've just seen this thread in Active and was comibg in to say id cancel, but I see I've been on the thread before saying the same

Glad it went well for you though splendid, a change is as good as a rest and all that.

Thanks! :)

It's nice to see you again, I still really remember how kind you were to me in the desperate newborn days. Thank you so much, it really was a help!

I remember too. It's really nice when I see usernames from our anti- and post-natal threads, knowing we all have 2 year olds together.

Yes it's gone fast!

And despite this moaning thread I am well now. Just in a bit of a sleeping blip!

Go. I have a rubbish sleeper. When we were on hols he was much better than usual. He even slept through twice. Sadly he reverted to his normal ways when we got back but still