To think he could have called me?

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First world problem alert, but...DP owns a shop and I work for him. The rota is set up so one of us works one day whilst the other has the day off. DP has been talking about how this is his 'week off' all month (meaning in theory I should be working everyday). Admittedly, I've been daft enough to misread the rota twice, thinking I was meant to be at work today when I'm not, so 100% my fault on that count.

However, DP has let me get ready for work, get the train in, make the half hour walk there and not thought to call me to point out my mistake. He is a late riser and wasn't up when I left for the train, but he's clearly had time to make breakfast before leaving (dirty dishes in the sink) and he was awake as I was getting up and ready this morning. AIBU to think most people would have called to save their DP unnecessary travel in the searing heat?!

Why on earth have you agreed to be a Director and have your name on the tenancy if you don't have a financial stake in the success of the business and are just a salaried employee? Do you understand your liabilities as a Director? You need some advice, urgently.

www.gov.uk/running-a-limited-company/directors-responsibilities

You also need a new DP.

You are on record as a director and your name is on the tenancy then the business is half yours whether he likes it or not.

Time to stand up for yourself and if he doesnt like it then he can buy you out of your half. See how he likes them apples.

Have you asked him why he didn't say anything while you were getting ready? Or why he didn't call you? What did he say? If he genuinely thought you were going to the GPs or something, then I wouldn't expect him to have called.

I really think you need to get some legal advice and get things straightened out. Either you have a stake and are a director, or you don't and you're not. It disturbs me greatly that he has said one thing and done another, and that you are not clear about your rights and responsibilities. I'm afraid it does sound rather as though you are being used.

"he employed someone on impulse, without asking my opinion, which was that she wouldn't 'gel' well with the rest of the team"

This would bother me A LOT. I think he's taking you for granted massively, and he's certainly not treating you as a partner in either the business of personal sense.

Seems he wants you to shoulder any risk without equal status.

I'd be getting a new job and new partner as well as home.

To stop being a Director is easy enough.

You just have to resign formally, which you'd do if you were leaving your job, making sure you state that you're resigning as director as well as whatever your day to day title is.

Then it is HIS responsibility as owner to notify companies house of the change.

Lorelei - I can't be 100% what he thought, I didn't want to get into it with him at work. I do think it's strange he didn't wonder where I was when he got up. His reaction was to laugh when he saw me at work and blame me for not reading the rota, rather than saying 'I wondered where you were, I thought you'd just popped to the shops'.

I'm paid pretty well, comparable to what I was earning in sales, minus the bonus, so that side of things I'm fine with. Ironically he made me a Director and changed it to a Limited Company a couple of months after making a big deal over how it's his business. It makes sense from a financial point of view, but nothing in the day to day running has changed since that happened. He's still in charge of the accounts, ordering stock, etc.

Generally, I don't mind the job, nice customers and get on well with my colleagues. Don't find it too stressful and feel on edge all the time as I have in all my other jobs. I can pretty much take holiday anytime I like, if my depression is bad DP is supportive and will let me take time off. Likewise, I don't mind covering for DP he is long overdue a holiday and he does work very hard.

I'm not too concerned about him running debts in my name. He's obsessed with becoming rich and making his business a success, he's very careful with money and business savvy. We also have a mortgage together. I just find certain aspects of his behaviour, like today, very strange. He'll also quite regularly say things like 'the business is hard work, but one day WE'LL be rich and it'll all be worth it'. I'll correct him and say 'you mean YOU'LL be rich'. He'll then get offended and say he works hard for us and we're basically married anyway, 'we can get married if you want'.

There's some incorrect information on this thread. You need to take all documentation to an accountant & a solicitor and understand what own and more importantly what you are responsible for. You could end up in a pile of shit knowing nothing about these documents you have signed.

I'm sure he isn't just using you, OP. Lots of people say and do things that are inconsistent as their attitudes and situations change. It is perfectly possible that he has been moving towards seeing it as your business too, but his mouth is yet to catch up!

With that said, you do need some advice, urgently. Being a Director is a set of legal obligations that you shouldn't take this lightly. Educate yourself so that you understand your rights and responsibilities.

I don't understand any of this tbh
"Under the impression" it was your business?

This whole thing makes no sense and what happened this morning is the least of your worries.

In terms of whose business it is, you mention feelings about a project - the law determines whose business it is.

Please tell me you're at least familiar with the accounts.