To not baby sit Godson?

[Halloweenbaby]

I've been godmother to a lovely little boy for 2 years, his mum is a close friend.
I've baby sat him a couple of times in the past, he has been in bed and I've just had to sit at his house obviously in case he wakes up, never expected any money or been paid just doing his mum a favour really. Friend has asked me if I can 'watch' dgs for a few hours tomorrow evening so she can meet another mutual friend for a drink.
Now I'm feeling pretty moody atm, I am fed up (few issues with dp) and am about to have 1st Baby in a few weeks so feeling hormonal too. I also want my last few weeks of 'freedom', even though i wil only be relaxing at home, i dont really like going to other peoples houses, i can never make myself comfortable, especially being the size i am now so aibu to say sorry but I can't? I can't say I have other arrangements as mutual friend lives close by so would see car in drive and I don't want to come across as being awkard but I think I am being aren't I?

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God, girl, get your boundaries in place!

If not, you will be running ragged when you have given birth.

Don't feel beholden to other people's babysitting schedules.

Any decent friend would understand and she hasn't given you much notice has she. Your pregnancy is not her pregnancy, so just say she can bring him over. But you are really not up to going to hers and you tend to feel a bit nauseous in the evenings. She can say what she wants about zero sleep.

I honestly wouldn't put upon my pregnant friend like this.

YANBU. I don't think being a godmother means that you have to babysit or do favours.

YANBU, you could go into labour or anything!

Just say you are not up to it.

I'd do it but I'd say to her "yeah course, but this will have to be the last time before the baby comes as frankly I'm no good to anyone past 7pm and just need my bed. I know it's going to be a shock when the baby comes sleep wise so I'm trying to sleep as much as possible"

"I am sorry but I can't as I have a pregnancy reflexologist coming round that night"
"DP's parents/sister/neighbours dogs BIL are coming round, sorry"

Any excuse that leave you able to stay at home but having to go out.

I had this happen to me, it was relative that I saw once or twice a year, they came to stay and I was 8 months pregnant huge and uncomfortable. Then one day they decided that they wanted to go out for the day and that she would leave her child with me a practical stranger! Her child would play with mine. The child started screaming as they put their coats on and only stopped 4 hours later when she fell in to an exhausted sleep. I tried everything to calm here, take her mind off it and cuddling upon which I got thumped and kicked in my back, legs and stomach. She was big 2 1/2 yr old. Who bit and pushed my dear child when he tried to help too. In the end I just took her raggy and a drink in the lounge and we went into the kitchen and left her to calm herself down. I had terrible headache I was in agony and my dear child had marks over his body, she was wild.
Then five o clock they came breezing in with hundreds of shopping bags/boutique for her little angel, oh and they'd had a lovely lunch in a lovely restaurant, we hadn't eaten all day! Then she child woke up she was fine, when I told them about my day they just looked at me as if I was lying. And still stayed for the whole week whilst trying to make me feel guilty for exaggerating about that day!!
So Op stick up for yourself and conserve your energy for those things that you have to do, maybe explain that if anything happened you couldn't carry her little one! And you'd hate anything to endanger her.
She shouldn't have asked really good luck

Any excuse that leave you able to stay at home but having to go out.

Eh?! THat makes no sense!

I meant....any excuse that leaves you able to stay at home but not able to go out!

She does go out a few times a week, at least 2 her dp usually is in and her parents love having baby over night so am not normally needed, the only time she has asked before that I have said no to is when I generally have plans and can't.

Oh and I have said I will have him at my house but it's inconvenient for them as he goes to bed at 6.30

I was all ready to say just do it, it's close to you and only a few hours. Then I read that she already goes out a few times a week (is that normal??) and u offered to have him at yours. If she pnly went out once or twice a year then fine but she sounds like she is already living the high life so I've changed my mind.

Yanbu, just say you are tired from pregnancy and tough if she finds an issue

Oh, and people I barely knew stayed with me once and decided they were leaving their FOUR children with me all day to go shopping. So I had 6 children in a little flat to deal with ranging from 2 years to about 9 years. I forget the exact details but their youngest 2 thought I was hilarious to chew then spit food all over the floor (carpet) and by the end I was shaking and had them sitting against various walls so they couldn't egg each other on/ cause more damage. I told the parents of xactly what I thought of their children as soon as they returned, full of joy with their masses of shopping bags. Funnily, I have never felt the need to see them again!

Babysitting is not obligatory, whatever your relationship. But I might be inclined to bear in mind that soon enough you will be replying on favours from a small pool of trusted people to get time and space away from your baby, and perhaps you will need her help. Just a thought.

Yanbu, just say you are tired from pregnancy and tough if she finds an issue

You're allowed to say no, you know.

Say you're struggling in the heat and staying awake so don't feel you'd be the best person to look after him.

If it was my friend and my godchild, I would of course do it. We put ourselves out for our friends and help them out. A few hours on her sofa instead of yours. What's the big deal? You do sound a bit precious about yourself to be honest. And when you have your own baby, you will know why it's so much easier to have the babysitter come to the baby rather than the other way around.

Pmsl at take some responsibility for your godson. I have 4 kids, 8 godparents, they don't even send a ticking birthday card

That's fair MrsDV