Bit of a long story, and quite tricky to tell without being identifiable sorry.
Diagnosed with a chronic illness at the start of this year, have been very sick and hospitalised 6 times since.
Sis and I have never been close however she does contact me very occasionally, more so when I'm ill. Attention can be quiet unwanted sometimes, had to tell her off for posting my condition publically on social media, and she tends to lecture about my health rather than offer support.
On my last hospital visit she phoned after I contacted a close relative, but also told me off for contacting said close relative before her (I'm closer with them than her!) and offered "advice" about how to get treatment faster...
I didn't reply to her messages for a whole day (have you spoken to nurse, have you had treatment, have you spoken to parents, did you get out yet...), while I know this was maybe wrong I was getting scans, iv drips, doctors etc, and my DH and parents were visiting and being kept updated. I was on social media liking posts but not commenting, and generally trying to keep distracted and not miserable!
So a massive social media outrage is posted by her complaining about people who don't get back in touch and how rude they are. However if she was that concerned could she not have called again? Asked my DH how I was doing? I know it's rude not to reply, but she knew where I was.
Long story short, I messaged her letting her know how appalled and upset I was by her behaviour (while still in hospital!) and how stressful it has been, but all she has responded has been about her and how selfish I have been not contacting her.
AIBU by saying if she doesn't apologise I don't wish to speak with her? :(