To not like/love close family/friends' DC?

[Dozer]

Kind of a TAAT (theme park trip auntie telling off OP's DC), but more something I've been mulling over after feeling irritable when spending (too much!) time with family and friends this summer.

I spend little time with my nieces and nephews and th DC of formerly close friends due to geographical distance, work pressures, family and relationship issues, health issues etc. When we so see people it's quite intense, eg staying with each other, holiday.

the relationships are quite distant, and I sometimes feel guilty about this, especially when I often don't feel love or even liking for the DC.

I dislike aspects of my friends' DCs' behaviour, stuff that happens frequently, and overall, because of this, find the DC tiring and irritating! And again feel guilty about this!

As a child and even adult I felt I could tell which of my many aunts/uncles liked and disliked me. I guess I want to be a "good auntie" but can't be arsed putting the work in!

I adore m nieces and nephews and step grandson. At the moment I'm not overly keen on my own as they are being little shits and I've been home too long this summer.

Have met various other children who I find annoying, whiny, brat tosh, manipulative and just downright evil.

I adore all my nieces and nephews and several of my closest friends' children, but there are a couple I struggle to like.

One is an only child and can be a bit of a terror! Her parents write off lots of her poor behaviour as typical from a 3yo, but from my experience and those of other friends, it's really not.

It's awful, but it's an example of what I do not want my own DC to be like. My DH is reluctant to socialise with these friends on account of this young child. I do care about her, but I feel guilty that I don't particularly like her at the moment.