This is my 1st time posting..so I'm a little nervous. I wanted to get your opinions on something that happened last night between me and my DP. At approx 22.30, after having watched a movie I said to my DP, I am going up to bed with a cuppa and a magazine. That i wanted to chill for a bit before bed. He said he was coming too. Fine. No prob with that. By the time i got upstairs he was already there..had turned on the Tele and was watching Olympic highlights. I got into bed beside him with my tea and mag. Now a little bit of background is needed here. Back in Jan I had retinal surgery..and unfortunately have lost most of my sight in my right eye. I can see light and dark shadows but no detail..i have very distorted vision in that eye now, which makes certain things very difficult to do. Reading being one of the hardest. I need to cover the bad eye and use only my other. It takes a bit of time to adjust to light etc and also on this occasion the text I was attempting to read.
Ok, so back to last night..into bed I get and my DP starts to waffle to me about what he was watching..then went on a rant about football..golf..populations of certain Olympic cities, nothing at all important! .I maintained the pleasantries for approx 15 mins after which I said, please love, I'm trying to read this. 2 mins pass. .he goes on again..this time tellin me to look at new Germany football top on the tv. I said i didn't want too. Explained that if i looked at tv it would take me ages to readjust to be able to read again. He said wise up..it will only take u 10 seconds, to which I replied No! . It may take u 10 secs but would take me alot longer. He response. "Dont talk rubbish".
Well needless to say this infuriated me..I have been dealing with this since Jan..had many conversations with him about the loss I have expeienced, both physical and emotional. And for him to say this to be made me feel demeaned, dismissed and like he really doesn't give a damn tbh!! I let a few mins pass..to process how I was feeling then i called him out on it..told him he had upset me greatly, and that he was bang out of order. He got defensive. Told me to wise up. Stop being so sensitive. I got more infuriated. An argument ensued. Many things not attached to the actual incident got said. He got up from bed. Left our home. I assumed he went for a walk to cool off .After 1hr 20 mins i contacted him to see if he was coming back as i wanted to lock the house up. He told me he wasnt!! I think he went to my MIL. She only lives a few streets away.
So this morn. 9.30a.m. ..the door wraps. It's him. Down ontime to take our DS to his swimming lesson. He starts a convo with me, gives me all his annoyances..how i was rude by not conversing with him..how i was cheeky by shouting at him. And how he is fed up of me speaking to him like he is a dog! He also said that he has did nothing wrong, that his response of "don't talk rubbish" was a throw away comment, which he now takes back. And based on this he won't be saying sorry!
I got upset again. Cried. Got frustrated. Then went to swimming lesson. Since we've got home it's been all picture, no sound! And tbh, I have no will or want to speak with him. It's bad enough having to look at him!
So my question to you guys is, am I over reacting to this? Am I bring childish to not just let it go?
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2ndtimemama · 21/08/2016 18:41
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