It's always been difficult, she thinks we're really close. Not really the case. Too many examples to list but let's start with my wedding day a few months back. I had my bridesmaids, mother in law, sister in law all drinking with me and helping me get ready ... My mum told me she'd be later than planned as she was going to look at a new house first. On my wedding day! Wedding was at 4pm, she eventually turned up at 3pm - made a quick appearance in my room and then said she'd see me later at the ceremony. Leaving MIL to play the "mother of the bride" role in helping me get ready.
During the ceremony DH got emotional when saying his vows. My mum declared that he was probably upset thinking about his first marriage!!!! Mil cried - mum said she wAs probably the same and crying about his first marriage. Who the fuck says that to a new bride?? She left the party early and the next day said "it was a long day for everyone wasn't it?" Err no, it was my wedding day!!!
Loads of similar examples. She never phones me, I always have to phone her. She never comes down here despite the fact that her and her husband are both retired and drive. She expects me, who works full time, to go and visit her or even to drive there, pick her up to bring her here to visit me and then take her home again.
My sister is a receptionist for NHS. A few months back NHS had a job cut phase in our area. My mum was panicking like mad that she'd lose her job and then said "hopefully it's just nurses that will be affected". You guessed it ... I'm a nurse. Cheers for that.
I fly to USA tomorrow. My mum said I'll call you before you fly. Will she bollocks. I'm starting to not want to bother. She seems to hate seeing anyone doing well, is always slagging off my cousins if they achieve or get a good deal with something, gets jealous if I mention MIL ... She's just such hard work. Wants to be the centre of my attention yet can never be arsed to make an effort.