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Parking - asked to move by neighbour for sleeping children

154 replies

thelionsleeps · 18/08/2016 23:15

We have a house with parking for 4 cars but all cars have to move for each other as the driveway is in one line.

We have 2 cars and I would say 99% of the time we park both our cars on the driveway but very rarely will need to park one on the road (public parking) when we know we need to get the other car out early in the morning or if we have people visiting but need to use one of our cars.

Tomorrow we go away and my husband wanted to get petrol later tonight for his car so moved my car outside our neighbours so he could get his car out after our children are asleep. Lots of public parking outside on the road although past 7ish you may need to park further up the road or round the corner. There was a knock on the door from a different neighbour about 8.30 asking us to move our car as he had just arrived home and his 2 children were asleep (5 & 1) and he wanted the space - he has no off road parking.

It was in the middle of us putting our 3 young children down for the night (including 2 under 1) but as we were running late tonight we were only just about to get in the bath. We did move the car but it seemed a bit cheeky to me. I know I wouldn't have asked if I had arrived home and was in the same position and would have just woken the children up (as annoying as that would be). I don't want them to think we will do this every time they need the space or were we just being neighbourly? Aibu to think we won't move again if asked?

OP posts:
diddl · 19/08/2016 09:30

It seems odd to me that the husband moved the car off the drive hrs(?) before & didn't just move them when he actually wanted to go & get the petrol?

SoupDragon · 19/08/2016 09:32

if you were an even more considerate person then you wouldn't have a fully paved front drive in the first place, as it is one of the major contributing reasons we have lots of flooding these days

It is having fully paved front gardens, not just driveways. A linear drive 4 cars long doesn't sound like a fully paved garden to me.

SoupDragon · 19/08/2016 09:32

You need to play car shuffle to ensure the cars are on the drive in the right order.

8angle · 19/08/2016 09:32

YWNBU to park on the road, he WNBU to ask you to move (i am sure he didn't know you were bathing small children at the time he knocked.)

You did the nice, neighbourly thing of moving and helping out your neighbour.

Sounds exactly like how a civilised society should work - no drama at all

Aworldofmyown · 19/08/2016 09:33

You have space on your drive for four cars. Your neighbour has no off road parking.

YABVU to ever park on the road.

NarcyCow · 19/08/2016 09:33

Sorry, OP, YABmassivelyU.

anotherdayanothersquabble · 19/08/2016 09:46

Poor man just needed a favour. Two kids asleep in the car, nightmare to get them both into the house without freaking them out at the best of times but having to park round the corner, leave one asleep in the car while you carry the other one in would be very stressful.

You kindly moved your car, I am sure he will be grateful and if you ever need a favour, he will be happy to help.

Friendly neighbours make life run smoothly.

Believeitornot · 19/08/2016 09:48

YABU and a bit inconsiderate.

Nanny0gg · 19/08/2016 09:50

Why weren't your cars parked so that the one needing petrol was first off your drive?

wowowowow · 19/08/2016 10:08

YANBU OP. Public street parking is for everyone. You don't have to use your driveway.

This again is people feeling "entitled" to get their car as near to their home as possible.

Your neighbour is being unreasonable going to your door and asking you to move - there are so many reasons why you may want to park on the street.

furryminkymoo · 19/08/2016 10:10

Has the OP returned to the thread? I just scanned the 4 pages of mostly YABU and didn't spot a post from the Lion. OP YABU

Zebra00 · 19/08/2016 10:54

I really don't see the issue of parking on the road if you have a drive way however you just use common sense and make sure your not blocking other people's drives allowing them space to get out there driveways.

Unfortunately when living in a house with no drive it normally is a case first come first serve on managing to get a space to your house.
Luckily where I live we all have drives most are long single lane drives and a lot do have one car on the drive and one off but no one moans or complains and to be honest it's great having cars on the road as it means other road uses have to slow down and can't use the road as a race track as there has been a few near misses one involving a car and a pushchair due to it being a straight long road that road users seem to forget has a speed limit

randomsabreuse · 19/08/2016 12:06

Not if the urgently needed car contains the necessary stuff - vet on call... not massively common but not rare either

I had early shifts meaning leaving by 6.30am. Barring calls DH didn't need to be up before 7.30 and might have been out in the night so that extra hour's sleep was precious.

Being able to park not blocking each other in was a non negotiable requirement of our next house...

Jaynesworld · 19/08/2016 12:24

YABU it is incredibly selfish to park outside someone's home, knowing they have two small children and taking up a convenient space for them, when you have space for 4 cars!

RichardBucket · 19/08/2016 13:27

I really don't see the issue of parking on the road if you have a drive way

How can you not see the issue on a road with limited parking??

OP, YABU.

Arfarfanarf · 19/08/2016 13:33

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DesolateWaist · 19/08/2016 13:37

I find that people who have always had drives just don't get the huge stress involved in on street parking.

Mari50 · 19/08/2016 13:47

One of my old neighbours did this, they have a garage and room for three on their drive but insist on only using drive for one car and parking their other car in on street space. Wouldn't be anything other than an annoyance of other next door neighbour didn't have a child with a disability so they actually NEED the space first neighbour insists on using. They could get space designated for their ise but don't want to draw attention.
Personally i think YABU, we had 4 cars in our drive at one stage and played shuffle, it's no hardship unless you're a real lazy arse.

Lweji · 19/08/2016 14:14

of other next door neighbour didn't have a child with a disability so they actually NEED the space first neighbour insists on using. They could get space designated for their ise but don't want to draw attention.

That is simply a silly reason not to ask for designated parking.
Anyone could park there. Why not ask for it?

They are the ones being unreasonable.

Lweji · 19/08/2016 14:17

YABU it is incredibly selfish to park outside someone's home, knowing they have two small children and taking up a convenient space for them, when you have space for 4 cars!

The OP didn't park in front of the neighbour who asked her to move the car. It was in front of another neighbour.

There's a reason I only looked for houses with driveways.

gillybeanz · 19/08/2016 14:21

Wtf needs 4 cars
Won't any of your family think of the environment. Entitled much.

coconutpie · 19/08/2016 14:28

Why did you go using public parking when you have enough space on your driveway FFS? You are the unreasonable one here. Sort your cars out in your driveway in the evening so that whoever needs to leave first is parked at the exit. But to park on the road, using up public spaces, when you have adequate space on your own driveway, is just shitty behaviour.

HaPPy8 · 19/08/2016 14:29

I don't understand why you didn't just park your cars in the order you needed them.

Snowflakes1122 · 19/08/2016 14:30

Yabu

Zebra00 · 19/08/2016 14:32

Read the rest of message.

If a drive way is that important to people buy or rent a house with one

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