My bff, I'll call her Sarah, seems to have stopped speaking to me after 27 years of friendship.
She has always been quite needy/clingy and has a tendency to read wrong into a situation and then feel sorry for herself and get offended. For example; she had a minor op a while ago and I tried on 3 different occasions to ring her to see how she was straight after her surgery. It went straight to voicemail. Then I received a text asking why I hadn't bothered to get in touch and didn't I care? When I did manage to get hold of her she admitted that her phone had been turned off, but she just assumed that I hadn't bothered with her and then she got all stroppy with me!
She asked me to go on a night out with her (which I'm always up for if I have the cash) and I said I couldn't really afford it at the time as I was saving for my holiday but she kept asking and pleading. I told her when my payday was and promised to go out with her the weekend I got back. I have a small DD and a house to keep so money is always tight but I do always try to make time to see my friends. Anyway, we set a date for a couple of weeks away.
A few days ago my dh, DD and I went to a family do and I couldn't drink all day as I had to drive (which I wasn't very happy about!) We got home late in the evening and I put dd to bed and was in my pajamas when another friend, I'll call her Kelly, messaged me asking if I wanted to go out. I haven't been on a night out with Kelly (also my bff) for around 10 years, although we see each other regularly, so I jumped at the chance after being teetotal all day. She came round at about 11pm and she bought some drinks with her and we had quite a few before we got our taxi at around midnight. My dh gave me a tenner and I spent around £15 of my own money, having been paid a few days earlier. We had a brilliant 3 hours dancing and I put the pics on my Facebook page. I'm friends with Sarah's mum on there as I've known them both most of my life, although Sarah isn't on Facebook. (Sarah's mum and I will mention any interesting posts of each others to Sarah).
I rang Sarah the day after and mentioned that I'd been out with Kelly last night and then she got offended and put the phone down on me. She then texted me, after completely getting the wrong end of the stick, to say how could I do that to her and that I let her down for a night out but then went out with Kelly, even though we'd arranged a night for just over a week away (at HER own suggestion!). She said I'd only told her because her mum would have which is utter bullshit. She said we could have invited her too, which if she'd let me finish what I was saying instead of putting the phone down, she would have known we hadn't planned in advance. It was a last minute thing. She would have been in bed and she also lives in another town so it would have been the wee hours when she got here. AIBU to be furious with her? She jumps to conclusions and didn't let me explain and then is annoyed with ME like I'VE done wrong. I have nights out with Sarah all of the time and Kelly never gets offended. Sorry for the rant!! I feel slightly better now I've got that out.