Am I a mean aunt?!

[user1471290485]

First post, no idea how to change my username to something a little more inspired.

I had a baby girl (first baby) 2 weeks ago. We live 50 mins from PIL's who usually show no real interest in us (if we never made the effort to visit, we'd never see them). When they come, they always bring their granddaughter and grandson (DH's brothers kids). She is 8 and a lovely girl but very confident. Pils phoned us a week ago to say that they would like to see us (of course I'm happy to have them over). This is the second time they've seen baby having first visited when she was 4 days old. We made an arrangement for them to visit today. This morning, they phoned to say they'd be staying the night but have brought bedding with them. Apparently "it's fun for the kids". Quite! I was v about this but ultimately it's not the end of the world and only one night. The minute they arrived the eldest spilt a carton of Ribena that she'd brought in all over the cream carpet. Fine, accidents happen. Pils totally oblivious to the absolute racket the kids were making and the fact that the eldest constantly tries to pick up my baby. I told her nicely not too but mil undermines me by saying its fine. this has been happening all day and I am at my wits end!!!

[CoraPirbright]

Why do they always have the other grandchildren? Why do they think its ok to just rock up with them when you are 2 weeks after giving birth??

Are they controlling or just utterly clueless?

[user1471290485]

Thanks everyone. Cora they're not controlling as such but always bring the grandchildren without fail. Bil and sil (parents of the kids) never come and bil clearly isn't that desperate to see his brothers baby but never mind. Niece is very trying, she's not badly behaved per se but everything is centred around her and she's very much a child that makes herself heard iykwim. This morning they all woke up at a leisurely 10am and are still here. Apparently the traffic is bad so they're staying put til lunchtime. I think in reality it's difficult to say something.

[strawberrypenguin]

You are 2 weeks post natal. Can't believe they would do this to you BUT it's the absolute perfect time to say something. Go postal and lay down how you want things. If you don't do it now it will just get worse. Your DH should also be stepping up here