If you haven't heard what someone said.

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AIBU to expect them to repeat it when asked? Just need a mini rant!
My 'D'H does this ALL the time. "Mumble Mumble Mumble calpol Mumble".
"Sorry DH, say that again"
"Calpol"
Me inwardly - aarghh, FFS, HOW many times are we going to have to go through this fucking vortex of conversation. If I haven't heard what you fucking said, repeating one bloody word doesn't take make any pissing sense. Does that mean he's HAD calpol, is due it, you want me to get it, whaaaaat.

I've had so many calm and not so calm through gritted teeth discussion pointing out if I haven't heard what he's said, repeating one word is pointless. And then it takes bloody longer to get to the point because I have to repeat again I'm sorry but I didn't hear you. So I don't understand what 'calpol' means. Can you say the WHOLE sentence again. While he gets all huffy because I'm not a beacon of serenity.

Feels like every fucking time. I know this is a minor irritation but gaah.

The way I used to deal with this was if I asked him to repeat himself and he was too lazy to bother then I thought it was too insignificant for me to respond and if he squally needed a response he would eventually repeat himself. But I can't do that now as we have a newborn baby and it's more than likely about him (such as the calpol).

Calpol

My mum is always worried that people are eavesdropping on us when we are in public so she talks ridiculously quietly and we can never hear her, which is fantastically annoying.
She's also developed a new habit, over the past year or so, of saying something at normal volume when I'm in a different room and have something noisy on, like the kettle, and have absolutely no chance of hearing. She then gets annoyed when I don't hear!

I am awful for mumbling though, and I get very indignant and defensive if someone points it out...

How old is your baby? I hated my husband after DD was born-everything he did pissed me off.

I'm not saying mumbling isn't annoying just that it may be that it won't bother you quite as much in a month or so

Are you married to my ex? EVERY SINGLE PERSON complained about him speaking so quietly they couldn't hear, but it was only me he got angry with...

I'm with you 100% op.

Dh does this. When he say one word I then say 'what about calpol', lading to much huffing and puffing from dh gahhhhh

He didn't do it quite as much acasualobserver. He also made more of an effort to listen to what I say - I feel like I may as well talk to the wall at times! I am so frustrated with having to patiently explain something when I pretty much know he's not going to listen! Such as (let's keep the calpol theme going)
"Where's the calpol Drop"
"It's in the pantry. Top shelf. On the right"
MrDrop heads off to look.
"Can't see it"
I go in and discover he's looking in completely the wrong cupboard.

It's happened way before the baby came. I am in a bit of a shitty mood today, hormones settling! We actually have got on very well - we had expected to have relationship struggles since the baby arrived as everyone warns you it really tests your relationship. Just today I'm a bit fizzy with rage!

I've found myself sitting and nodding to so many of the responses on here...especially Nannas where they mumble over the bit you didn't hear the last time!!

Oh and lighthouse...calpol!

STBXH used to complain that I spoke too quietly, meaning he couldn't hear what I was saying.

No, the reason was that the football/golf/rugby/tennis scores were far more important so he couldn't listen to me.

I know this to be true because my dad, who is 81, mostly deaf and doesn't wear his hearing aids, says that I am the only person he can hear clearly because of my excellent speaking voice

So nerrrrrrrrrr, STBXH.

On a separate note (but following the not-listening theme)- we just got back from the family holiday that was booked pre- separation. He has a habit of repeating a word or phrase at increasing volume to interrupt someone else speaking, thus:

Me:...we went to the cinema and saw Finding ...

Him : So, so, so, SO, SOOOO...

Etc.

Now that I see no need to pander to his finer feelings, I just loudly told him that repeating himself that way was not going to make me stop abruptly in the middle of a sentence and that he was bloody rude for doing it.

Felt so good

I ask: "You're going to whatty the car's what?"
Or make up something that sounds like the missing word: "You've just tripped over the fizzwangle?" to show that I was paying attention until they mumbled.

But what grates on me is when somebody in another room suddenly shouts: "What's THIS?" ... Could be anything. Use your imagination and a few words if you want an explanation FGS!

While we're offloading, my DH will point something out by unfailingly saying "it's over there"! I have virtually a 180 degree view in front of me and you are trying to show me where a kitten is hiding by only saying its there... give me a bloody clue!! Where, where!?! Landmarks DH!!

DH's other one that really annoys me:
"Where's the whatsit?"
"I don't fucking know. Perhaps if you communicated in English rather than gobbledegook, I'd know what a fucking "whatsit" is meant to be and be able to answer more constructively, but as things stand, can't help you."

Yes, I have actually said that. Nothing improves.