On a recent work night out I was sat next to a much older male collegue. (I noticed that when I arrived he moved seats to sit next to me) We had pleasant conversation and an enjoyable evening. He is always a tactile person and will often touch you whilst talking to you at work however as the evening went on I noticed that he was touching me a lot on both my arm and my leg and putting his arm round me for photos, selfies etc. He appeared to be equally attentive of the collegue sat on his otherside, who commented on it at one point when he was at the bar. I put it down to him being a tactile person and just friendliness. He then asked me to drive him home, our earlier conversation had already established that I would be going in the same direction so I didn't feel I could refuse without being rude. When we got to my car he started telling me I was beautiful and how much he was enjoying getting to know me better. I felt very uncomfortable at this point but couldn't think of a good response in the moment other than to thank him for the compliment. When we reached his house he reached over, gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek before getting out the car. I felt quite uncomfortable with this level of friendliness, I've not worked with him since or had any oppotunity to speak to him. He knew I am married as I'd talked about my husband earlier in the evening, and although he didn't mention his wife he knows I have met her in the past. I have discussed his behaviour with 2 other collegues, one who agrees he was being over friendly and would also have felt uncofortable, another who feels he is just a friendly tactile person who's had too much to drink and come across in a way he wasn't intending and I've got the wrong end of the stick. I've worked with him for a number of years and always liked him (in a purely proffesional sense) and prior to this incident would have probably agreed with the second collegue if someone had told me something similar.
I no longer feel unconfortable at the prospect of working with him again in the future and have rehersed how I would deal with any future situations where I felt uncomfortable. I'm just interested to see if people feel that he wad acting in an over friendly way or I've just misread things and over reacted.