to think I must have had a rush of blood to the head.

[midlifehope]

Please help me rationalise it. Yesterday I spent an eyewatering amount on 2 welsh vintage tapestry blankets for throws on our sofa in the snug room. I spent over £600 (of my own money on 2 throws and a cushion). They look lovely but wtf was I thinking? That's half my monthly salary. It is 'my' money, but dp not working at the moment as he's doing childcare. He (dp) is treating himself to a holiday in the alps though (atm, as a friend's son cancelled so he got a really cheap spot. So perhaps I was feeling hard done by, and treated myself.... I dunno.....should I take them back? I'd be too embarrassed actually.... eeek. I have quickly hid the price tags!

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

And what's a snug room? Is it a second more comfy lounge?

[midlifehope]

Sciurus83, good idea.... I could do that couldn't I

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

Can't a friend return them for you? I would if you were my friend. I have a friend who makes me do all her returns because she's too embarrassed

[BastardGoDarkly]

Meh, they're lovely, you might have a tight September, but these will last you a lifetime, and give you joy, so, fuck it, enjoy them!

[GloriaGaynor]

In the past I've said the item was a present and the recipient didn't like it.

For that price it could be a wedding present, or significant bday/anniversary.

Presumably you'd never have to go in there again anyway.

[Cagliostro]

I nearly spent £50 on a beautiful handstitched space-themed quilt the other day, that would've been spendy enough! :o

I do like having the odd really beautiful thing in the home though (I have some replica prints of various paintings which make me really happy) so I understand. But there has to be a limit on cost, so I'd take them (or one at least) back. They're lovely though.

[Sgtmajormummy]

Do not, I repeat DO NOT attempt to wash those things by hand. I had a much cheaper version and tried to handwash it. It turned into a mis-shapen rag.
That would be a double blow to your confidence.

Personally I'd take them back with the "wedding present no longer needed" excuse and spend "my" money when your joint future looks brighter.

[EverySongbirdSays]

Because you are actively asking for judgement here, I think you maybe did go a bit insane temporarily.

I mean they are.... "nice" but in look homemade, second hand or well loved way

Certainly not look as though you've just spent that level of money!

[Eva50]

If you really, really love them keep them and pretend they are heirlooms for the doc. If you don't then take them back (if you can) and tell them the colours clashed with the room. £600 is a hell of a lot of money to spend on two throws!

[Eva50]

Doc should read dcs

[PandoNoPants]

Personally, I'd take them back too. I have a DS(6) and a DD(4) and I just know that if I bought something nice (and expensive) it would probably get ruined by DH(40)

Anyway, I had a quick look at that website. Check the t&c's for returns (below):

Returns

Orders can be returned within 7 days for a full refund or exchange in the following circumstances:
•ONLY after contacting us & with our agreement
•Goods are found to be damaged, defective or misleadingly described
•Incorrect item shipped

A credit note will be offered for any circumstances others than those listed & all refunds will exclude postage costs.

Special order items : made to order accessories, cloth by the metre & made to order clothing is exempt from The distance seller regulations & cannot be returned under those terms.

[goshthatseemsalot]

Good luck with the refund. Try were offered for sale and you accepted to buy. Why should they refund you?

[midlifehope]

Gosh, most places have the option of refund these days - for example they might not look right in the area you chose them for.

Pando, thanks for that info. I was scared to look!

[DotForShort]

Will you feel annoyed with yourself and panicky every time you look at them? If so, I would definitely return them. The pleasure of owning the throws wouldn't be worth the anguish of thinking you've wasted money unnecessarily. OTOH, if they give you great pleasure and you can afford the price, then keep and enjoy them.

I know that I would fall into the first category. I don't tend to buy anything on impulse because I inevitably regret such purchases. Not suggesting that is the right way to be, of course. Sometimes I would like to be a bit more spontaneous.

[BabyGanoush]

I once bought a crazy expendive doga cushion (massive, choc brown fuzzy lamb fur)

It has started falling apart, after 10 years, it has been a great comfort corner fir the DC, they used to fight who could lie on it. They even hug it.

So it was worth the money!

Bought it in a gorgeous carpety-type shop, spur of the moment, I touched it and it was so soft I got a feverish feeling of: gotta have this!

Maybe just keep it and love it?

[allowme]

Blimey I've got one of those! Mil gave it to me years ago she got it in the 70s.

[goshthatseemsalot]

But legally you have no right to a refund if they are not faulty. They look like a small independent rather than a high street retailer. Did you discuss returning them if they did not work in your space?

[Witchend]

I was talking to someone today whose first house cost less (much less) than those throws.

[midlifehope]

allowme - keep hold of it ;)

I feel very comforted when I look at them - not panicky, so I think I'm going to keep them and love them, cwtch up on them on cold winter nights and watch TV, (and try not to get squashed bits of food on them). Babyganoush, it is exactly the feeling you describe, so I think youve convinced me to keep them. I haven't put one on the chair that dh and ds sit on to watch tv, so they are unlikely to sit elsewhere.

Goshthatseemsalot (did you change your name for this thread;) of course I didn't, because that would have been sensible.

[Sciurus83]

OK well it looks like you can't get a refund so stop agonising over it and enjoy your beautiful new throws! See if you can make some savings elsewhere for a while to ease the guiltpain

[midlifehope]

Sootia - perhaps subconsciously because I am not getting a holiday this year (dp is - but that's another bloody story- grrrrr), I did it.....

[Sciurus83]

And while I might not spend that on throws I'd spend it on a long weekend abroad no worries. Swings and roundabouts 😀

[NorbertDentressangle]

at paying that sort of money for a throw

at paying that sort of money for a throw when you have children (I can imagine it being dragged around to build a den with, having sticky, snotty faces and hands wiped all over it ....)