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To think it's not just me who doesn't like being stared at while partially dressed?

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lifeofsiam · 14/08/2016 13:41

Dh and I were in what is supposed to be an over-14's only sauna/spa bath area.

A boy who looked significantly younger (about 12) sat on the edge of the jacuzzi steps staring at us the entire time. His mother and elder sibling stayed in the steam room, leaving him outside.

In the changing rooms, I spoke politely to the mother, saying she may not have seen the sign saying it is over -14's only, and also her son had stared at us the entire time, making us feel uncomfortable.

She became angry with me, said the boy was almost 14 and autistic- which is why he was staring.

Ok, we weren't to know that, and she was clearly very stressed.

She then muttered 'there's always one.'

I asked 'always one what ?'

'Always one who is uncomfortable being stared at.'

I didn't respond- I didn't want to argue with or antagonise another mother with a disabled child - but afterwards I thought how it's not just me who would feel uncomfortable and a lot of people, especially women and teenage girls wouldn't feel comfortable in those circumstances, either? And that I'm not 'only one' in that case?

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YetAnotherHelenMumsnet · 15/08/2016 13:23

Thanks for the reports about this thread.

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IonaMumsnet · 15/08/2016 20:10

Evening folks.. Just wanted to let you know we have edited a post further up the thread that used the word 'rard'. Toads - we know you absolutely didn't mean to offend anyone but it is one of those (very few) words that really upsets a lot of people understandably, so we tend to just delete it. We've edited in this case in order that your whole post wasn't lost. Sorry to mess with your stuff! As you all were.

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