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Original poster

To think going bowling for a stag do is a bit crap?

130 replies

ShockedABC · 13/08/2016 17:35

DP just text me to tell me his best man and a couple of other friends are taking him bowling soon and then off for a meal for his stag do tonight.

If that really is it, I'd be gutted for him. His brothers don't even appear to have been invited.

I really, really hope they are just faking and going to pull something out the bag.

OP posts:
tryingtobestronger · 13/08/2016 17:36

I think that's what my husband would be happy to do to be honest.

I guess not everyone wants the club scene or whatever else they do on stags lol

FeckinCrutches · 13/08/2016 17:37

Is he disappointed?

HSMMaCM · 13/08/2016 17:38

My dh would be happy with that.

Willyorwonte · 13/08/2016 17:38

Yabu
It's a lot better than a weekend abroad that costs a fortune.

HSMMaCM · 13/08/2016 17:38

Maybe that's what he said he wanted?

Original poster
ShockedABC · 13/08/2016 17:39

I suppose I'm reflecting my own disappointment of the idea of no effort being put in.

Not even inviting his brothers?!

I specifically asked for no bars, clubs or shots for my hen do and I know already that effort has been put in to make it fun for my hen do. Everyone is really looking forward to it and it's a secret.

Bowling and a meal just sounds so 'can't be arsed'.

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Lovefromhull · 13/08/2016 17:39

That's what stag and hen dos used to be like. Sounds great to me!

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 13/08/2016 17:40

I think YABU. I'd love to go to a hen do that was just bowling and a meal. They seem to be completely out of hand nowadays.

Someone I know was complaining that every wedding he goes to costs him about £1000 Shock by the time he has factored in a stag weekend, usually abroad, hotel for wedding, alcohol, gift etc.

spankhurst · 13/08/2016 17:42

I think it's fine. Don't really get the stag/hen extravaganzas these days.

tryingtobestronger · 13/08/2016 17:42

Oh wait it's your husbands stag do, not that your husband is attending his friends.
That's crap if he was expecting more tbh

JenLindley · 13/08/2016 17:42

Well I hate bowling so I'd be dissappointed at that but it makes a change from all the "5 days in Vegas" stag dos that seem to be the only way to do it these days! I'd much rather have a meal out and drinks after. Like what used to happen!

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 13/08/2016 17:43

My DH went to the rugby club for drinks with a couple of mates. It's not about you, it's about him.

JenLindley · 13/08/2016 17:44

OP if you have ruled out bars, night clubs and shots but also want more than bowling (or similar) and a meal then what exactly are you expecting for you hen? Confused

mrsfuzzy · 13/08/2016 17:45

if that's what he wants to do what's the problem ? not all men are into the strip club bit, if he was getting a lap dance you'd probably moan about that too, leave the poor guy alone.

PotteringAlong · 13/08/2016 17:45

I went bowling for my hen do. It was awesome

WannaBe · 13/08/2016 17:47

There was a time once, not so long ago, when a stag or hen do involved going out for a meal and a few drinks. Now this seems to have escalated into a weekend or more away at a cost of a vast fortune. why?

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 13/08/2016 17:47

Yabu. Stag and hen do parties have got ridiculous - I think it's great that they are taking it right back to basics.

Costacoffeeplease · 13/08/2016 17:48

Jeez you sound like hard work

Do you want them to strip him naked, handcuff him, and put him on the overnight train to Inverness?

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 13/08/2016 17:49

And if he wants his brothers there, he should invite them and not just expect other people to sort things out.

tryingtobestronger · 13/08/2016 17:49

Think people are over looking the fact that they've not even invited his brothers?

WyldChyld · 13/08/2016 17:50

I had a sleepover with daft games, lots of food and drink and no pressure. The stags were so jealous they crashed the party (we knew they were going to)

BoGrainger · 13/08/2016 17:51

It used to signify the last night of 'freedom' but most people live together already so seems a bit daft to do anything apart from a piss-up really. Bowling sounds great

CigarsofthePharoahs · 13/08/2016 17:51

That's exactly what my DH did.
It's what he wanted to do. He didn't invite his brothers either, but they've never been close.
The last thing he wanted was one of the mega celebrations and he said he spent part of the time worried someone had booked a little "surprise" for him.
He said afterwards that he'd probably not have bothered at all, but for some of his friends.

BoGrainger · 13/08/2016 17:53

Why does a groom need someone else to organise it? Especially one who doesn't know the 'guest list'?

LilacSpunkMonkey · 13/08/2016 17:53

If I was getting married and someone suggested bowling and a curry for my hen do I'd be made up.

Stag and hen extravaganzas have got completely out of hand in the UK, with people having weekends and weeks away abroad.

I live in a seaside town where we get a lot of stag weekenders and it's horrible being in town with my kids - during the daytime - and having to try to avoid the large groups of drunk men behaving like idiots. They're really unpleasant a lot of the time.