We are just back from a weeks camping with friends. Friend A came with her son (9) and her friends daughter (10). Her son has considerable disabilities and is non verbal, needs help with most things but is happy sat on the grass with some toys. Friend B came with her son who also has considerable disabilities but is full on running off, grabbing things, knocking cups off tables, throwing things and attacking other children if he's not happy. I went with dp and my dd 10 who has autism.
So Friend A had a tent which dp and I helped her set up. DD and the other girl spent the whole week together, mainly in the pool or park and were pretty happy just running about. We also had a large tent which dp and I set up and Friend B slept in that with her son and us. We also supplied most of the camping equipment, fridge, lots of food and all the other general camping stuff. We picked friend B up from the station and drove her to the site.
The issue is Friend B did very little in terms of helping out at the camp and didn't contribute much towards food although she was happy buying her son's food. We (dp, me and friend A) did ALL the cooking for the entire week and most of the clearing up. I know her son is hard work but just an offer to cook one meal out of the whole week would have been nice. I took her son out with the two girls one morning for a couple of hours to give her a break, took him swimming another time and also took him out for half an hour this morning to let her get her own stuff sorted in peace.
She did contribute to the holiday (it cost £400 for the week's pitch) and I asked her for £100 contribution which I thought was fair. Friend A paid for her pitch.
Aibu to just not want to go on holiday with her again? I feel it could shatter the friendship because I feel utterly worn out, resentful and a bit pissed off at paying for nearly everything, doing most of the bloody work at the camp and not being appreciated. I am sure she's had a lovely holiday while I don't feel like I've had a holiday at all.