To get so angry with DH needing constant instructions on EVERYTHING

[purplespottedelephant]

So I'll be reading a story to my DS
"Babe how much water do I need to add to this rice"
Read the bloody instructions

Putting away clean washing
"Have you seen my phone"
He proceeds to trash the whole downstairs looking for it-I go down and find it straight away

Bathing my DD
"How much milk will I add to this mash"
He still asks after maybe 100 times of me telling him!

I could go on and on all day..he actually fries my brain, so annoying, he can't think for himself or use any kind of common sense, he has to have direct instructions from me or he can't do it! And it's always when I'm busy

To those saying that there's some kind of hidden agenda behind this.

My dh can be like this, he asks me things because it's easier than figuring it out for himself and maybe he's secretly hoping I'll just do it, but then if we are going somewhere far away I will get dh to drive and say "oh you're better at finding places than me dh". I get dh to go in the loft because I'm afraid of spiders, I get him to play football with ds lots of stuff like that that I could probably figure out for myself but in truth don't want to.

I get that some men are abusive and that some gender roles are split very unfairly with men doing no housework and childcare. But some of it is just normal couple stuff.

My dh is the same purple he does housework, cooking, shopping and childcare as well as working a lot. He does ask constant questions though like which wash something should go on, whether something is cooked yet, whether the dc need their lunch, he also cannot work the tv remote or sky planner.

Baby..

My thoughts exactly.
That's why i said further down the thread no one is perfect. There is plenty things my DP could moan about me for. That's just relationships for u.

I had a flatmate like this
and after a bit cottoned on it was a sort of convenient helplessness that was designed to get people to bustle over and end up doing the work while teaching him
so I started being really dead pan and literal in answering his questions
eg - how does the washing machine work? would get a reply like ' well, its a device for cleaning clothes using the agitation of water produced by a rotatory drum mechanism.... what? that's not what you were asking?'
It was even funnier when all the other flatmates started using the strategy and at that point he learnt some simple skills like how to operate a vacuum

DP and I ended up making it into a running joke eg - what do you think that cloud looks like ususally gets an answer of ' Well, Id have to say a bunch of suspended ice and water particles, probably cirrocumulus....'