My dh is 34. He works about 40 minutes away in a semi stressful job. He works hard but he enjoys it and he's probably the less stressed he's been in years. But he has no get up and go at all. I became a sahm a few years ago because of our dc having autism. We've now got three kids and two have autism. I'm exhausted a lot of the time. My dh couldn't get much time off over summer as his boss was away and it was a newish job. Anyway my dad and I are taking the kids abroad and it involves a long drive. I've said as he's got two weekends on his own including the bank hol that he'll get a lot of down time which is fair enough but would he be okay to do some jobs that are hard to do with the kids around. His reply "I'll probably be really tired". He's always tired and seems to really lack any sense of adventure and get up and go and it's really frustrating.