Hi I'll keep this as brief as possible my ex who walked out on me and my son 11 years ago has recently got back into contact via my mother who for some reason is all for this. My ex was abusive and we split while I was pregnant I allowed him access to our child and he disappeared when son was 4 months old. Fast forward 11 years I'm happily married have had another child and ex turns up at my mums doorstep the next day my son went to his nans and she broke the news to him telling me over the phone a few hours later once I finished work. This causes a row anyway I took my son to meet his father this was 5 months ago and he hasn't bothered seeing him since there's always an excuse. He promised my son money this never materialised so I contacted csa who have tracked him down so I got some abusive messages he's refusing to cooperate. Anyway I then get a phone call from my mother my ex has phones her to moan about the csa situation she then phones me saying I'm spiteful. My son has said he wants no contact but no one will listen to him aparantly it's what I've put on his head. Suppose what I'm after is an outsiders point of view. Sorry for the long post.