To be so angry with my brother

[iluvshoes]

For seeing a married women who can't decide whether to leave her husband!!! Massive row with him last night and I've told him he can't stay at mine anymore. His wife is going through hell at the mo as her mum died a few weeks ago. I was so angry with him and yet now I feel bad for telling him to leave!! Am I a horrid cow ?

I wouldn't jock my brother out over this, I would say how much a disagreed with the affair etc.

But he and his wife have separated, do you know the full story of their relationship and why it broke down?

Could you reach out to your SIL? Maybe take her out for a drink and let her know that while you aren't going to chuck your brother out you certainly don't approve of his behaviour and that you're there for her if she needs you.

I think its been a bit rocky for a while and not she's not really into the physical side of the relationship.well that's what he's telling me. I know he's had one other affair as I saw some emails and caught him out. His wife can be a feisty one but she's also very lovely underneath. I'm not sure me talking to her at the mo would help as she feels I've gone against her by giving him a place to stay. I did go and c her a week ago and she was struggling. Its very sad. I know if I lost my mum I'd need some help as it would break me

Offer her as much support as you can, poor woman

Good god, I feel so sorry for his wife. I hope you can talk to her (not about your brother's actions but just to offer support)

Keep seeing her. She certainly needs you more than your brother does right now. It might take a while for her to realise that you aren't backing your brother's behaviour, but hang on in there. She's lost a lot and is bound to be vulnerable

I will summon up the courage to go and see her over the weekend. Maybe take the dogs for a walk so I can talk to her

Yanbu. He's a tosspot.