To ignore "friend"

[PeppaAteMySoul]

I have a friend over this morning and when making us both a cup of coffee she saw our meal plan pinned to the fridge.
Today we have banana pancakes topped with peanut butter and apple for breakfast. Lunch is pasta and simple tomato sauce. Yoghurt for pudding. Dinner is Lentil soup and bread and butter. Ice cream and pineapple for pudding. Anyway she looked at it and said she would never feed her daughter that amount of carbs or junk in a day.
It's actually quite a good food day for my DS (3). Am I right in thinking it's not that bad really?

She sounds jealous to me and so decided to pick holes in it to chip away at your confidence. Smile and ignore.

That sounds like a great days food! Kids needs carbs and fat. Regardless she sounds really really rude &
I wouldn't be inviting her over again.

I'm shocked that this 'friend' would negatively comment on your meal choices for your 3 year old. Your child, your house, your rules. I'm more shocked that she would be restricting any food group from a 3 year olds diet. Carbs are not the devil, particularly at your child's age. Eating is not just about nutrition - it's also about enjoyment, experiencing new tastes, learning to socialise whilst eating and developing a good relationship with food. In my opinion this kind of neurotic manipulation of kids diets is what causes problems further down the line.

'Junk'. What the hell does she consider 'junk' from that?

It's totally fine for a child.

If she wants to bring food to cook for you & can get your DS to eat it, then she can crack on 😁

I very much believe that eating 'low carb, higher fat & protein' is good for us. I feel better when I eat that way, but most people, especially children, are fine with more carbs.

It all sounds really nice though & you are doing really well on a budget & coming while you feel so crap.

Ignore her comments & focus on her better attributes - like playing with the kids while you rest 😁

Next time the self-righteous bugger comes over, make sure she sees a meal plan which consists entirely of deep-fried Mars bars, reheated Big Macs and Smarties. Christ, she sounds like a dream...

You're perfectly justified to ignore said friend. It was so rude to even comment.

Absolutely lovely meal plan. It's a little high in dairy/fat for my personal preferences, but eat to their own! Different people thrive on different levels of these foods anyway. Blitzing veggies into pasta sauce and soups is a great way to increase consumption. Carb content is fine as well. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH CARBS. Protein content is great as well, PB and lentils are fantastic sources (I'm sure you're aware though). Don't worry about it, you're doing a great job.

I think it is rude to remark about other peoples diets and also very boring. It's bloody hard to feed a family cheaply, pleasing everyone's tastes and dietary requirements as well as being nutritionally perfect.

But then if she's a very good friend she may feel comfortable saying what she thinks, especially if she's very health conscious.

My sister is always picking my diet apart and it's very boring, but she means no harm she's just very interested in food and nutrition.

blimey, that's mad. I'd be distancing myself from this 'friend', that is a perfectly nice set of meals. You don't need a critical friend that makes you feel as though you are never good enough, friendship is supposed to be about support. If you were feeding your DC fried mars bars and they were getting to be unhealthy weights, only then would a really good friend be ok to give you a nudge. This is just competitive mummy rubbish.

Children should not low carb.

Take her child a massive bowl of pasta next time you see her, poor kid.

My DS is a carb monster. He wants bread/ potatoes/ pasta/ rice with most meals. I don't really know how to train him out of it

You SHOULD be eating carbs with every meal!

God she'd fucking hate me.

My kids are staying with my mum and sister for three days while me and DH have a weekend away. I've told them just feed them whatever's easiest, if that's frozen pizza and chicken nuggets that's fine.

I think your menu sounds great. And she is doing more harm than good feeding her children purposely low carb.

He definitely shouldn't be trained out of carbs.

Low carbing is for people who want to lose weight / maintain a low weight. Children need carbs.

Honestly

Its fuck all to do with anyone else what you feed your children. I think that menu sounds perfectly fine.

Before I read what your friend had said, I thought that sounded like a great meal plan for kids. Things they love but with protein and carbs thrown in. Peanut butter has good fats, fibre in the soup. Sounds great OP Is said friend an expert?? I have a friend that always glances at everything around my home when she comes for coffee, I often think...' God your rude...and fat' although I obviously I never say Ignore her and keep doing what your doing.

Sounds good to me OP. Please don't worry about it too much.

You might get someone else posting on here who thinks TT his isn't healthy, but that's because this is AIBU and it's possible to pick apart pretty much any meal and declare it unhealthy if you're that way inclined. Some people would call a 'low carb high fat', bacon, sausage and cheese omelette with mayonnaise unhealthy (sounds a bit yuck to me but that's not the point), but to some people it is perfectly healthy. I try to take the opinions of other people (excluding HCPs or actual experts) with an enormous pinch of salt. A friend of mine is on the most faddy restrictive diet I've ever seen (vegan, no gluten, no night shades, no refined sugar, no soft fruit like peaches or plums , no caffeine or alcohol - I could go on) and yet he eats loads of fruit, which would be like cryptonite to someone on the first phase of Atkins. It's all very subjective tbh and your menu looks good.

Should say "who thinks this isn't healthy"^^

I would have been extremely grateful if my children had eaten what was on your menu.

Your 'friend' would have a fit if she'd seen mine...

As a veggie myself that looks fine to me as you've said you've hidden the veg in the sauce and the soup. Vegetable proteins ( from the peanut butter, lentils and wheat) are often incomplete but you've covered that off with the inclusion of some egg and dairy. I'd just ignore her.

It sounds great OP. How rude. Just ignore her. Do you think she felt a little bit threatened and was trying to prove herself as the better mother?