to think I have a normal 3 year old?

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DH seems to think Ds is an unruly brat, I think he's a normal 3 year old.
Examples -

He wanders off/ahead when we are out/doesn't want to hold hands.

He asks for toys if we are looking at them in the shop (he doesn't mind if I say no though)

He can be whiny/demanding when tired/hungry/bored.

Likes things done a certain way/gets upset if say he can't fix a toy or if something he is playing with isn't working( again level of upset depends on tiredness/hunger)

He is loud and noisy.

He is also lovely, kind and gentle with his baby brother, polite, imaginative and happy.
Please tell me your three year olds are like this too and my DS is not a demon child like my DH seems to think?

Doesn't mind if you say no to having toys. Completely abnormal or is that just my brat?!

What is your husband expecting? There's a reason they usually only release stills of Prince George you know!!! Im sure they must fill him up with calpol before he goes to a public event where he'll be filmed. Kate keeps that hair long so it can hide her lips as she mutters "be good and you can have smarties for tea" in his ear

Only thing i never compromised on was holding hand 3 yr olds can be unpredictable they can run out in the road, walk into people, trip , they had to stay by me everything else is normal although you might not want to excuse behaviour as x y z though and deal with it as it arises

Yes, come to think of it, my almost 3 yr old threw a tantrum this weekend because I refused to buy him a crappy plastic guaranteed to break within an hour's worth of play toy from an attraction gift shop.

I have a 3.10 y.o DS. Sounds spot on to me.

Totally, totally normal op. Your ds sounds lovely!

My 3.5yo is exactly the same.

Sounds like your DH needs to do a few preschool runs or toddler group visits...he'd soon realised that your ds is absolutely typical of his age group!

Sounds totally normal to me!
Plus if he's kind to his little brother - that speaks volumes about how well you are doing.

I like the sound of your DS.

Was DH allowed to be a child?

Sounds totally normal! It will fade.

Sounds completely normal!

If this is what he thinks of a 3 year old I'd love his opinions on spending time with 5 year olds

I am a SAHM so by suggesting DS is a spoilt brat I took that to be a dig at my parenting.

It was. He was taking his bad mood out on you.

Is this opinion he holds about his son an ongoing thing?

Your ds sounds lovely and a perfectly typical 3 year old. My ds could be an absolute tyrant at that age. He also excelled in the art of pushing boundaries.
If I'd have looked up "unreasonable" in the dictionary it would've said son of Lauder!
Fortunately he has grown out of a lot of it.
Your DH having these unfairly high expectations of your boy must be really stressful for you. I know I got very upset and defensive with family members at times.
Make DH take him to a soft play centre pronto and don't let him come home til he admits he was wrong

He sounds lovely (and very much like mine).

Sounds normal.

In Sweden they call that age the 'terrible threes'