To ask about anniversaries

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In every relationship I've been in the other person has always wanted to celebrate our "anniversary". I've never really seen the appeal. I get the big ones like, 10, 20, 50 years together, that's kind of impressive.

I guess I'd just someone to explain the appeal to me.

invariably, DH and I only remember because MIL is usually on holiday but leaves a card with us before she goes.

having said that, I think it's quite nice to have a reminder to be nice towards the other person, given the daily grind of family life, so I do then get DH a small present (book or CD or something) and gladly make use of the excuse to have a cheap meal out or a takeaway with the DC.

I guess, for many folk, a wedding anniversary is more important than other anniversaries because your wedding day (and by default the marriage) is more important than other random dates (I.e. First date, first holiday etc). If you value the marriage, then it's more than reasonable you'll celebrate or even just acknowledge the moment you made those vows.

But as a PP said, it's not compulsory. And, if your marriage is at risk / struggling, then no you'll probably not feel like celebrating anything. But would that be an opportune time to reflect and discuss? In a "5 years ago today we were getting married, but today I feel a little sad because ......"

MrsDempsey ...... I'd want the diamonds too BTW

Dh got me a card this week for ours and I'd forgotten (the card, not the date). However, he totally lost the moral high ground when I saw that he'd spelled my name wrong, both on the envelope and inside!! 21 fucking years, and it wasn't even a typo! He had the grace to look sheepish and say he didn't know what had come over him.

I think it is nice to remember the day you committed to spending the rest of your lives together. In some ways more so if there are issues. It is nice in a busy hectic life to make time for each other. Even in the 9 mo the preceding me leaving my husband we commemorated our anniversary, it gave us time outside of our normal routine to try and rekindle our romance. It worked well for a bit and then he turned back into a complete tosser but that's beside the point.

My parents have celebrated 40 years together this year. That is definitely worth a celebration!

Celebrating doesn't have to involve expense, it can be as simple as your kid having a sleepover with a friend/family meme we and a nice meal in/takeaway.

We got married on leap day and we have decided that every 4 years on our anniversary we are going to go on a really good holiday. Why not?

They celebrate because they want to
Just like valentines and birthdays, to some people they're something to celebrate in a big or small way, while to others they're just another day.

We went out for dinner on the anniversary of the day we started seeing each other, once we were married we started going for dinner/going to the cinema/getting a takeaway on our wedding anniversary. It's never anything hugely expensive because we can't afford it but it's nice to do something a bit different from the normal day to day routine of working, parenting, cooking and cleaning. We give each other a small present (£20 worth at most) and cards, it doesn't have to be a big "thing".