I am going to "out" myself here but I am a bit beside myself.
Booked a holiday for us and our 6 kids. (None together).
OH got sent away for work. He is totally out of the picture right now.
DSDs (9 and 11) still massively excited about coming. Which was great. Was actually really looking forward to having a week with them.
I went to see them a few weeks ago (ex wife and I were v friendly) and was worried about living arrangements (ex wife renting massive house and has 4 lodgers, 3 male no DBS checks - everyone getting drunk), lots of other concerns.
I drove away v worried so messaged her best friend who said she had been messaging ex wife mum and suggested I did the same.
So I did saying please can you keep an eye as am very worried I don't want to say anything and offend ESP as we have this holiday booked and she (ex wife) has form for threatening no access.
Her mum did nothing other than tell her I had messaged and what I said.
Predictably she has said I can no longer have a relationship with the kids and she "has asked" them if they want to come away and they don't (apparently).
I have said if they change their minds that's fine please let me know.
Holiday is next week and am pretty sure am going to hear nothing and they won't have "changed their minds" just feel absolutely shit that they are going to miss their (only ever) holiday that they were so excited about.
Do I risk a last ditch attempt?
I know she is struggling with money and was relying on me for childcare for that week.
WWYD?