To want sterilised? Advice

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Hi, im 23 and have 3 DCs 7,3&1, i had my 1st when OH and I were just 16 (we are still together), back then we decided that we would have 3 kids, fast forward a few years, we have them and are very happy but both adamant we will never have anymore, after DS3 was born I was at the nurse for my check and to talk contraception, I asked to be sterilised and was told 'no chance and even if i got the coil in for 5 years and asked after that they still wouldn't because of my age'.
I would totally understand this if I only had 1 DC. The reason i dont want any other contraception is that none of it agreeds with me, I have had the rod, coil and injection and had to get them took out because of side effects and i wouldnt trust myself with the pill, DS2 just turned 1 and we have just been using condoms since he was born which we both dont particularly like.
AIBU? Do i have a case here or will i just have to accept the answer i got (i also mentioned it to my gp and he said the same), is there any ladies on here who have been sterilised at a young age? Advice needed x

I gather the reason that doctors get involved in this admittedly personal decision is because the NHS would inevitably have to reverse it on a fair few.

I was asked if I wanted my tubes tied when I was pregnant with my third. I am the same age as you OP. I was quite shocked she asked me! I turned it down and got a copper coil which is working great for me after the first few periods being quite heavy.

Apple: Surely a no-reversal policy would be more reasonable than these blanket refusals? I wouldn't mind someone being told their mistake, their problem, as long as they had been properly advised to start with.

Sure, but it doesn't seem to be straightforwardly the case at the moment.

I get sick and tired of the nhs guidelines on this. If a male can walk into a GP and get a referral to have permanent contraception so should a women.

Generally we as women are not stupid, we know the risks and what the op is about.

Good luck OP.

I asked to be sterilised at my post natal check when dr asked me about contraception. I'm 33 done having children and don't want to use contraception anymore. She said they don't do sterilisation or vasectomies on NHS in our trust unless it's a medical reason!

One of my friends battled for three years to be sterilised after having one child in her early 20s. She was adamant she didn't want more children but the doctors kept offering her the coil instead. She is feisty and fought her local HA. She had the op aged 28. She wasn't in a relationship at the time.

Keep going. If you are deadly certain three kids are enough then you have the right to the decisions you make for your own body. I agree that your partner, if squeamish, should still investigate the snip, as it's less invasive than female sterilisation. My husband will not talk about it the selfish wanker, so I have a coil, but still. Keep fighting. Camp in the GPs office with all your children and proclaim I AM DONE! Health professionals think they have autonomy over our bodies. They fucking don't.

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My oh is exactly the same re the snip. He shuts me down if I even mention it.

You need to be adamant that its what you want. You need to show that you understand it is permanent and will not be reversed. You understand that you are very young but you have completed your family. Also that you have considered what would happen if your OH died and you got a new partner who wanted more DC.
You also need to make the point that you do not feel your body can physical take another pregnancy and that it would be emotionally damaging to you (particularly as the physical problems it would cause you would impact on the DC you already have).

Then just keep on reiterating it.