Trying for a baby when OH is still unsure

[user1470326318]

So as the title suggests, I'd like to know some opinions please. Myself and my partner have been together for 2 years now and have lived together (rented flat) for a year. Together we bring in a fairly decent income (£43k between us) and our relationship is very stable. OH is 32 and I am 23 and we have both spoken about and agreed that we see our future including marriage and children. OH often talks about what our children will be like, things we will do when we have children etc etc. Last night I decided to bring up the subject of trying for a baby and he didn't exactly say yes or no. He admitted to me that although he likes to fantasise about the idea, the reality of having children is slightly daunting for him and he also worries that we are still not earning enough to provide sufficiently for a child. We had a long discussion and OH explained that if I do really want a baby now, then he is willing to actively try, but, he would personally like to wait a couple more years. For me- a couple of years would feel like a lifetime. I have been extremely broody for the past year and not a day goes by when I don't think about starting a family with him. At the age of 23 I feel at the perfect age for my first child and I'm reluctant to wait any longer. I know OP would be extremely supportive if I did fall pregnant and part of me thinks that once the initial fear/shock is over, he too would be very pleased. So, AIBU in trying for a baby? Anyone with a similar experience on here?

[LotsOfShoes]

Be careful here, if he's not fully on board and only doing it for you, you will 1) end up doing all the childcare and anything child/house related because he will see this as something you wanted that he doesn't need to sacrifice for; and 2) end up a single mum on what is quite a low salary in a couple of years once he's decided he can't take it anymore. For it to be the great little family you imagine, you BOTH need to be on board. Otherwise you are just setting yourself up for some very hard times.

[annandale]

Sorry, I think waiting is right too. Having said that, I would also have a private deadline of two years - if he's still 'maybe' at that time, I'd get going tbh.

There is no such thing as too much money when you have children so no harm in building up a bit of a nest egg, your outgoings will never be as low again. Also if it were me I would like to be married.

[CharlieSierra]

You are only 23, you have a nice boyfriend but you are on quite a low income and live in a rented flat. Why on earth wouldn't you work together towards moving up the career ladder, marriage and buying a house before having children? I don't understand why you would rush into children with a man who isn't fully on board and when you are a way off being well set up for it, it sounds really immature. There is plenty of time, slow down and get your priorities right.