To think this is fucking rude behaviour and to be bloody furious?

[MaddyHatter]

We bought a slow cooker, i'm still learning to use it, and like everything new, you sometimes overdo things and learn next time to adjust the cooking time or tweak the ingredients.

Whenever DH tries something new that doesn't work, or i don't like, i will tell him once, eat what i can and then talk about it afterwards.

I just had a go at some orange chicken, and i admit it was overdone, but it was still edible, i ate it with no problem.

He just sat down with it, asked 5 times if something was burning, spat out the first mouthful, then has sat picking over it and with every single forkful complained it burned, pointe out where its burned, pulled faces, made shitty little comments.

I feel like telling him to go fuck himself. i'm absolutely fucking fuming with him.

My DH always has some 'helpful' suggestion..like 'next time could we try that cooked a little less' or 'maybe next time we could add some basil' ..

he is trying to be subtle but hacks me off all the same!

I think I might prefer him to just say he doesn't like it and chuck it!

anyway YANBU OP - tell him to do it himself next time!

He could just have said "Thanks for going to all this trouble, Maddy, but I'm really not enjoying it, I think I'll make myself some toast"?

Presumably he didn't because either : (a) This is just how he treats women-it's your job to cook for the man of the house and should jolly well get it right; or (b) he is being unpleasant to you for some specific reason, e.g. resentment at something else; or (c) he was raised in a cave by wolves and knows no better.

(a) and (b) are completely unacceptable, (c) is bad but at least offers the prospect of improvement when you put him right.

Yanbu, he was unnecessarily rude. I'd cook my own dinner and eat before he gets in. Leave him to sort himself.

I have made things that dh doesn't like, and he doesn't say anything but I can tell, so I always tell him if he doesn't want to eat it he mustn't. He always still says thank you for cooking it and is happy to make an oven pizza or summat.

I wouldn't have let him continue with that behaviour, I would have removed the plate and said he shouldn't eat it. I can't bear seeing people pick apart food like that. Either eat it or don't. (Fil does this - he doesn't say anything but pokes things with his knife and pulls faces )

twokids - simply because it was in too long. The recipe said to cook on low for 4hrs, it's overdone, if i do it again, i will likely reduce to 3 or even less.

Quitelikey - no, it wasn't 'that' bad, as i said, i ate it, but it was overdone.

I love my slow cooker - took a bit of getting used to, but it's great now I know what I'm doing with it.

My DH wouldn't dream of being nasty or snide about my cooking, because he values his test-icicles too much, and nor would I be rude about any of the revolting crap meals he makes. It's just very discourteous, apart from anything else. I've always told the family that if they don't enjoy something they can leave it, but they'll have to make themselves a sammich as I'm not a kitchen slavey. It's very rare that they do, and when it happens they tend to say "Sorry, 2kids/mam/auntie 2kids - just not to my taste." I can live with that.

Wind - We actually share the cooking, but i just don't have the manners of a cave-man when his first attempts at things go wrong.

Dh would eat it and then after might say "thank you for cooking - it wasn't my favourite thing." He knows any bolshy rudeness and he'd be wearing it. Fil is very rude to mil about her food it's horribly embarrassing. Once dh was politely eating a curry and I sat down, took one bite and spat it out. No idea how dh was eating it - chicken totally off! We got takeaway that night!

My mother once cooked red mullet for my father and he made a big thing of how awful it was. Anybody else would have had the sense to shut up after a while, but he was still going on about it the next night. In the end she threatened to shove that night's dinner in his face if he didn't shut up

fwiw, i don't agree it was burned, nor that it tasted burned, but apparently there must be something wrong with my nose.. not his.

YANBU

Never cook for him again, ever

Ungrateful hit

Git, I mean!

Maybe it's the slow cooker, I love mine and not managed to overcook anything yet, the longer you leave it the more tender the meat should be, that's my experience anyway. I won't do roast on the oven no more, the slow cooker is magic for this. Seriously maybe try a new one!

Some meals go wrong. Sometimes because of new equipment or just sometimes, just because it did. No need for snippy comments and silly faces. He needs to grow up.

Sounds like a child.

As an adult, he can cook anytime he wants. Is he aware of that? Perhaps you should not-so-gently inform him of that fact :)

YANBU, even if he didn't like it there was no need for him to be so rude and hurtful.

As others have said, there is a big difference between politely saying "thanks for going to the effort but I'm not really enjoying this" and being such an ungrateful dick about it.

Don't cook him anything else until he apologises.

KingJoffrey - if he apologised would you start cooking for him again?

Yanbu, that's very rude =(

YANBU, but can you please tell me how to cook a roast dinner in a slow cooker? I'm baffled by this - I thought I could only do stews 'n' stuff? Well, liquidy things...

DH can be like this. It is bloody rude. The next time he fucks something up, you can either
a) behave politely as you normally do, but Pointing out to him that you are not doing what he does, and suggest that he should consider behaving in a similar way
Or
b) behave how he does, caricature him. Then tell him this is what he does and if he does it again you will do x or y. I would include ltb in those options but only if you mean it.

The sound of orange chicken is interesting. How do you do it?

I don't see how you could burn something in a slow cooker so sounds like he was making a song and dance.

My dh generally likes my cooking but eats everything and always says thank you. If something hasn't gone quite right we might share a look but he'll only say something if I do. Like I might say, I think I had too much liquid in it or think it could have done with more of this and he'll either agree or say it was ok anyway. He knows he can't cook as well as me and finds it difficult to do more than quick oven based stuff so is genuinely appreciative. If he reacted as your dh did he'd find himself switched on low for 6 hours instead

Take your cue from him. Apparently in your family it's time for amateur dramatics when you don't like what was cooked for you. See if you can outdo him...

Never saying anything bad about his cooking probably means that he's convinced himself he's Gordon Ramsay.

"I feel like telling him to go fuck himself"

Do. Tell him exactly that. You're his wife not the hired help. Also list the stuff he's made that was less than Jamie Oliver standard.

In this house we are honest with each other about how our meals turnout.

It is perfectly possible to be both honest and polite, though.