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Neighbours and parcels?

81 replies

StillSmallVoiceOfCalm · 30/07/2016 13:29

I don't mind taking in an occasional package but.....

NDN never answer their door. I end up carrying their parcels back and forth 13 times before anyone appears. Even when their back door is open and Ican hear them in their kitchen.

They have stuff delivered almost daily. Which means I have to fall over their stuff in my hall every day. And try to et them to answer their bloody door.

I work night shifts half the time. The delivery people bang on my door, make the dogs bark and wake me up. This could easily end with me murdering someone.

I try to take round today's parcel. There is a helpful note on the door 'If no answer deliver packages to number 18'.

I cheeky fuckers

Do I

A. Lob their parcels over the fence into their dog shit covered garden?
B. Put a notice on my door 'no packages for number 17'
C. Kill them all?

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happypoobum · 30/07/2016 13:55

Why are you accepting the parcels?

I have a doorbell I can turn off - would that be an option for you if you work shifts and don't want to be woken up?

Berthatydfil · 30/07/2016 13:56

Put a sign on your door
NO PARCELS WILL BE ACCEPTED FOR ANY PROPERTY OTHER THAN "MY NAME/MY ADDRESS" EVEN IF INSTRUCTED BY NEIGHBOURS
NIGHT SHIFT WORKER SLEEPING

If they carry on I would consider signing Mickey Mouse and then denying all knowledge of any parcels

AdmiralData · 30/07/2016 13:57

Get a permanent sticker for your front door that states no cold callers or anything of that kind, no parcels for neighbours either. I had years of peace with mine.

raviolidreaming · 30/07/2016 13:59

Stop accepting their deliveries!

Farmmummy · 30/07/2016 14:06

A with any you currently have followed by b. For further instances definitely c!

gillybeanz · 30/07/2016 14:07

My mil had this problem and when she went across the road to neighbours who hadn't called for parcels as they usually did, she saw a note on their side window saying "Please deliver parcels to no x" mil house number.

She was furious and wouldn't accept anymore. She had been kind enough to accept all their parcels including lots for kids xmas.

Cheeky fuckers, put a sign up "DND no parcel deliveries for neighbours"

FeelingSmurfy · 30/07/2016 14:10

I would -
Remove sign from their door if possible
Put a sign up on your own door (behind glass) saying under no circumstances will you take parcels in for next door
Keep parcels you currently have until they come to collect, upon which they will see the sign
Hand parcels over, ignore any talking and shut the door

Mummyme1987 · 30/07/2016 14:10

I would write a note asking next door that you won't be excepting anymore parcels but if you are woken then you will be taking the parcel as a gift.

FeelingSmurfy · 30/07/2016 14:11

Oh and don't mention being on night shifts, that just tells people the house will be empty of a night

Mummyme1987 · 30/07/2016 14:12

Obviously don't do it but refuse the parcels. If they think you will take them and not pass them on then they might think again. Can you leave the parcels you have on their step?

Fluffycloudland77 · 30/07/2016 14:13

I don't take in parcels after our bellend ndn came round in a right strop because we'd taken in his parcel. He is an epic twunt though who thinks strippers are ok & teases his dw that she's fat Hmm. And I heard him tell her to smack their child because it fell out of bed.

A previous ll had her parcels delivered to our house until I stopped accepting them & Royal Mail returned to sender. Funny how she remembered her new address after that.

Stop being so nice and make them go to the sorting office.

hollinhurst84 · 30/07/2016 14:18

On night shifts I remove the intercom and put a sign up saying "night shift worker. All hell unleashed if you knock. Do not disturb"

TheBathroomSink · 30/07/2016 14:20

YANBU. Saying no to the couriers doesn't stop you being woken up in the first place, and there's so many different firms and drivers telling one doesn't necessarily make a difference.

I work at home, so I am always being asked to take parcels for people. Most are fine, I have no problem with them, but I no longer take them for the neighbours on one side because, like yours, they never answer the door when you knock, and they never come and pick the damn parcels up either. The last one I took in, I handed back to the same courier a week later, and I have refused to take anything else for them since.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 30/07/2016 14:27

B) They didn't consult you about putting a sign on their door so you don't need to consult them about putting one on yours.

Perfectlypurple · 30/07/2016 14:29

B

We took in a parcel for a neighbour, they were in just never answer the door - I have seen them not answer the door, then when the courier leaves I see them at the window. After we took in one parcel, we had another knock, and the courier said there was a note on the door to leave parcels at ours. I refused to take it. We also both work night shifts, and I have no intention of being a second post office for people.

I will take other neighbours parcels in though.

RepentAtLeisure · 30/07/2016 14:34

I agree. Take the note off their door, leave the parcel in their garden, and put a very clear note up on your door.

WutheringTights · 30/07/2016 14:36

Leave the latest parcel on their doorstep with a note through the door explaining why. Then B.

Roussette · 30/07/2016 14:40

So they've put up a sign saying to deliver the parcels to you??? Bloody cheek.

You can't stick up a notice saying you won't be taking in parcels for them because really it isn't fair to be sending the delivery guy round to you, only to have to read that. I would go round to see them and tell them in no uncertain terms to take the notice down and that you will not be taking in their parcels.

paddypants13 · 30/07/2016 14:40

B. If that fails then A. If A fails then C.

I wouldn't bother going round to deliver them.

WeAllHaveWings · 30/07/2016 14:41

Depending on your circumstances decide if you want to advertise you are working nightshift (if the house is empty at night)

Any parcels you currently have do not deliver, let them come to you.

When they do come tell them to remove the sign on their door unless they ask you in advance and you agree to take delivery of a specific parcel. Also tell them you don't mind taking deliveries when they are not at home and its convenient for you, but you will start refusing parcels if they do not come and pick them up promptly as they are getting in your way.

When you are sleeping put a DO NOT DISTURB sign on the door clearly stating no cold callers or parcel deliveries that are not addressed directly to you.

If anyone ignores the sign give them hell. Do not take in any parcel where the delivery driver has ignored your sign, or if you don't want to.

Katedotness1963 · 30/07/2016 14:41

One place we lived I became the drop off house for the streets deliveries because I was home during the day. Until one day a woman came to the floor and screamed at me that whatever she had delivered was broken, it was obviously my fault and she expected me to pay to replace it! I told her it must have been broken in transit as I never actually touched the box, it sat where the delivery man had set it till she came and got it, so no, I would not be paying for it.

Next time the delivery man came to the door I told him I would not be taking anyone else's stuff in again. They could get it delivered at a different time or go to the depot. He was quite understanding as he already knew what happened because the neighbour had contacted them to see if they could make me pay.

elodie2000 · 30/07/2016 14:50

Delivery drivers take it upon themselves to take our parcels round to our miserable neighbours. I have a note on the door saying we'll collect from the depo if we're out but they still drop off next door. I'm sure our neighbours think it's our fault!

Sugarlightly · 30/07/2016 15:05

Our neighbour has things delivered every single day almost. I will come home from work, see it in the courtyard, take it in and deliver it when she gets in (up to 9pm at night), but it really pisses me off (she also doesn't do it for our parcels). Last straw was a massive table delivered and literally left directly in front of hers (and our) front door. I've given up now, if she can't be bothered to pay for Saturday delivery then her packages will be left outside.

StillSmallVoiceOfCalm · 30/07/2016 15:47

Oh god. I am an arse.

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StillSmallVoiceOfCalm · 30/07/2016 15:47

I take it all back.

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