Anyone else who's never had a row with their partner?

[WibblyWobblyJellyHead]

Dh and I have been together for ten years, married for six. We've never had a row and very rarely (like once a year) have anything resembling cross words.

It's the only relationship I've ever had like this, and I used to think that rows equalled passion. I don't think that any more.

Our marriage is far from perfect (I've got MH problems, overspend and make stupid rash decisions so im not easy to live with) but he is my best friend and I love, respect and fancy him so having a screaming match or being mean just wouldn't happen.

Anyone else? I haven't put this in Relationships because I don't think it's fair, so I'll shoehorn an AIBU in. AIBU to never row with dh?

[Cutecat78]

I think this possibly depends on what behaviour you witnessed from adults as a child.

[DeadGood]

www.the-pool.com/life/life-honestly/2015/31/sali-hughes-does-arguing-make-for-a-healthy-relationship#

[FrogTime]

Together 7 married 3. Had small disagreements but never a full blown arguement. They just dont happen.

[ShatnersBassoon]

We haven't. We're both calm by nature and I'm from a very shouty family, which completely put me off rowing (it's bloody miserable for those listening).

[MrsKoala]

My exH and i never rowed. Even when we divorced. It was weird. I felt no passion for him. I loved him like a brother. He was just far too nice to me. My current dh and i rarely go a day without a snappy conversation and barely a week goes past without a humdinger of a row. That's not great either, but it's preferable to my first marriage. I'm hoping my 3rd marriage will be a happy medium of the 2

[practy]

I think it depends what you mean by row. My parents say they never row. They mean they don't have big shouty arguments. But they still disagree and bicker a bit.

[anyhue]

Relative to other people I know we very very seldom row or fight, but it does happen from time to time (one a year?) ... and so far have been able to resolve issues. I'm happy with that aspect of relationship, since I'd not like to have frequent DH arguments as I do with the kids!

[BlueLeopard]

We sometimes disagree, but its done without shouting or getting ratty. We've never had a shouty row but neither would we put up with shit for a quiet life - we are well able to stand up for ourselves, but try to do it as respectfully as we can. Having said that, we are both very laid back and I think that helps a lot.

We are 12 years together.

[ssd]

we've never had a big row, been together nearly 24 years

[SaggyNaggy]

We don't argue.
Can't think of anything to argue about tbh.

[MargaretCavendish]

I am very sceptical about some of the definitions of 'argument' being used here, and about the divisions being drawn between 'arguing', 'disagreeing' and 'cross words'. One of my friends once told me that her and her then partner 'never argued'; they were that classic couple who make passive aggressive digs at each other in public constantly under a very thin veneer of 'joking'.

My husband and I spent the first six months of our relationship either in bed or arguing about politics - sometimes both thinks back wistfully on this period of complete bliss

[LittleBearPad]

Can't think of anything to argue about.

Does your DH just agree with whatever you want then?

DH and I do row. Often because of something unrelated to our own relationship. We have busy lives, hectic jobs, young children, we're tired. We snap at one another.

[Wincarnis]

10 years and yes we have pissed each other off but never a big bust up with flying crockery

[MaQueen]

Hmmm, I usually say 'show me a couple who never argue, and I'll show you a couple who are not emotionally invested in each other.'

We have friends who claim to never argue, because they don't shout/slam doors etc. But instead they carry on an insidious war of attrition, in thinly veiled barbs and snide comments. Pretty poisonous.

DH and I do row, though not nearly as much as we used to, now we're mellowing into middle age. But we're both quite opinionated and strong willed, so sparks still fly. But at least it's always immediately out in the open and quickly sorted, and I think that's so much healthier than the war of attrition, or spiteful PA acts.

[CwtchyQ]

We've been together 7 years. We argue, but things don't fester and tbf I think we both pick our battles. It doesn't bother either of us, it's just how we are. I don't know anyone in RL who doesn't argue, but that's not a bad thing, people are just different.

[Ihatechoosingnames]

5 years and 2 arguments which actually weren't big at all. Everyone is different, though.

I am happy to let him know when I disagree with him and he is the same with me but we just haven't had much cause to argue, really. We don't disagree all that much.

[Pengweng]

I can only recall one major argument and that was one New years eve. Someone stole our cab because he was twating around saying goodbye to someone so we had to walk home. It took an hour and by the time we got home i needed a wee so badly i thought i was going to explode. I didn't speak to him for days after calling him a twatting cunt face

We don't spend new years together any more

I am more of a sulker though and DH knows well enough after 11 years together when i need space.

[soulsparkle]

DH and I never argue. We've been together 9 years and married for 4. Neither of us are confrontational and we are quite similar people so don't actually disagree all that often. But when we do, we're happy to let things lie and don't feel the need to bring the other of us around to our own pov. We never raise voices at each other and aren't the type to make nasty comments.

[NickyEds]

18 years together and dp and I have never had a row. I've yelled at him in my head but by the time I see him I've usually put whatever it was into perspective or am ready to talk rationally about it. We haven't had that many disagreements actually and certainly none big enough to lead to a fight with slamming doors and name calling. My sister and her ex would go at it like you wouldn't believe, even in public and it was awful. I wouldn't want my kids to grow up around that.

We are very emotionally invested.

[Sleepingbunnies]

Together 10 years and yes we row :) I can't believe that so many have never rowed!

[PrincessIrene]

We've been together 7.5 years, married for 3. We've never had a row. We disagree on some things but instead of arguing we talk things through. like adults

[ThinkPinkStink]

Dah and I had a flaming (and ongoing) row in 2013 and we haven't since.

We disagree. Discuss. Move on.

[ThinkPinkStink]

Dah = DH with chubby fingers

[nilbyname]

I've had 2 humdingers with DH and we have the very occasional minor disagreement. We are both pretty easy going, he more so than
Me, but he is good at reading me and not winding me up when I'm feeling the rage.

When we have had a big argument- jeez look out it's bananas!

On the plus side, we don't bicker hardly at all, there is no passive aggressive shit and no sulking.

Some if the "we don't argue" crew on here sound a leeetle bit in denial.