Growing up, my mum was a big drinker. But not a funny, jolly drunk. A very depressive, quite frightening drunk. I'd spend weekends with my dad and midweek with my mum as they'd divorced. I am an only child. To be frank, my mums drinking terrified me. I asked her on several occasions to stop, but she would instantly shut me down and tell me she was an adult and could do as she liked. My mums drinking aside, I had a happy upbringing. When my mum isn't drinking, she is a kind and thoughtful person. I am now in my thirties, married, with two dc. I dont drink as I always promised myself I wouldn't subject them to the worries I had. My mum lives several hours away and we enjoy going to see her a few times a year and stay for the weekend. She's never drunk in front of my dc. Last weekend we drove down to see her. She ring when we were 10 mins away to get an eti. She was wasted. I told her 10 mins away and ended the call. I told my she she sounded very drunk. He suggested when we arrive that he parks down a side road and I go in to see her and suss out the situation. The dc are oblivious. I tell them that granny doesn't sound very well so we might not be able to stay. I go in to see mum. She can barely stand and slurs at me that she's had a tough week and she's not drunk. I tell her that she is and that we won't stay as I won't have the dc around her whilst she's drunk. She says it's my choice and slams the door. I then get into the car and tell my family that we are going to have to go home as granny isn't well! Dc very good about it considering how disappointed they were. Dh bless him, had to drive us the 3 hrs back home! I felt gutted. Also felt bad knowing she's lonely and was looking forward to seeing us, would have got food in especially etc.. Next day I receive a text from her at lunchtime. Thought it'd be an apology. Nope. 'Seeing as you've become the perfect daughter and mother, perhaps you'd like to share your secret. What makes you so faultless?' I replied 'I'm sorry you're having a tough time and I love you very much but I stand by last nights decision. I will not have my dc around you when you are drunk'. The next day I get another text 'I'm sorry it will never happen again. Will you still come to X ( a pre planned event we were going to with her next week)?'. I tell her 'Call me tomorrow when I'm on my lunch'. Following day she calls me. No apology, just talks as though nothing's happened. She tells me that she's about to book tickets to X. I stepped in asking her to explain her text to me (the faultless one). She tells me it was in response to how upset she felt after I'd left her house. I said we were all upset and I thought she would have used our conversation here as an opportunity to apologise in person.. She hangs up as I'm in the midst of saying this. Not heard from her since. I'm so sad. I'm so angry. Was her text apology enough? Should I leave it now? Or would you feel pretty pissed off too??! So sorry it's so long but it's great to get it off my chest and hopefully get some objective opinions.