Nc with sil and recently mil I can give the back story if needed but needless to say I had to just stop seeing them as their behaviour towards me wasn't going to change.
Anyway I've been able to easily avoid general parties etc as sil has been quite clear that if we went she would not be civil even if our dc were present.
Anyway there's a family wedding in the planning and Dh's gran is very poorly and we've been told she doesn't have long left- if you're nc with certain people (inlaws or your family) what do you do when there's a wedding or a funeral?
Thanks