AIBU to think they should have stayed at home?!

[MinnietheM00cher]

I'm feeling pretty cross with a friend from a baby group, and wondering if I'm being over sensitive due to recent stresses? Can you let me know you thoughts (kindly If possible!).

My 9mo DD had 2 lots of neurosurgery in June as part of management of a genetic condition. Unfortunately she developed a post op infection after the second one and we had a week back in hospital on IV antibiotics, and more to take home. All in all be have been missing from usual baby groups for around 6 weeks.

Once I decided she was well enough to socialise I invited everyone from he group to my house for a play date as we had both really missed them. We all had a lovey day, and it was lovely to see so many there to celebrate her being well.

Today (4days post event) I woke at 5AM to find my DD covered in vomit, she's been sick all day and has a fever too.

Now here's the thing, one of the people who came had aplenty told others that her DS had a tummy bug for the 2 days before and has stopped having D&V the night before.

Am I the only one that would keep my child away from others for 48 hours after symptoms to avoid the spread? Another LG who came has also woken at 6 this morning covered in sick and still being very ill.

I feel especially annoyed as she knows how poorly my little girl has been. She just doesn't need this.

Now am I overreacting due to recent stresses? Or was she out of order?
Sorry for the rant!

You're right to be fuming. But it happens I'm afraid.

I think that's bloody awful. Selfish parent. I hope your little one bounces back quickly. X

YANBU. I would be fuming! It is standard advice that a child is kept off school 48 hours after D and V, should be the same for anywhere else. But then there are always those parents who don't like things like children being ill getting in the way of their lives. I have a friend who is like this, she hates being at home and has to go out every day so sod anyone else, she carries on when her children are ill. Chicken pox/recent bout of D and V or not which makes me very angry.

I'd be furious. Absolutely livid.

What kind of selfish fuck muppet takes a baby that's been vomiting to any baby group, let alone the home of a child who has been so ill?

I'd seriously struggle to socialise with the stupid cow.

Hope DD is better soon 💐

I would be very cross. This pisses me right off.

I hope your dd soon recovers from the thoughtless parent's actions

Next time, make sure you have a written invite that states something like this :-

As you know dd has been ill recently and her immune system is still recovering. Please can you make sure that both you and your children have been clear of any D+V symptoms or rashes
[ insert anything else you can think of here ] for at least three days before visiting us.

They should have definitely stayed away, everyone knows the 48 hour rule. And in your circumstances I think I would have added an extra buffer of time on.

Aaaargh ex-reception teacher here. I remember a conversation with a mum in the playground, dropping off her daughter who was as white as a sheet. "No, she's fine, perfectly fine' said mum. Child, however, was a silent vomiter and had that moment thrown up all over her mum's shoes.

I went to a bbq on Sunday with 2yo and 3mo, only to find out after half an hour that the hosts daughter had vomited twice already and several more times. We didnt say anything and no-one else seemed bothered but we disinfected (bathed) both dc immediately at home. I just find it completely bewildering how blazé some parents are with illness.

As a requirement, children at dds school have to be kept off for a minimum of 48 hrs once the symptoms have subsided. Symptoms can spread even after that length of time. I wouldn't expect her to have come unless they were 4/5 days clear to ensure another family member wasn't carrying the bug.

I'd be fuming. I have a compromised immune system so I know how inconsiderate others can be. They're usually fine after a few days but passing on their bugs can take months for me to get my strength back.