To be cheesed off she told me what to eat?

[Karlpilkingtonswife]

I am in my 30s and friend is much older. Age difference is no issue, but now and again, she gives advice in a motherly way , which makes me aware she is much older iyswim (?) and it normally doesn't bother me, I find it sweet or vaguely amusing. Recently we went out to breakfast, some sad stuff had happened to me and I felt crap so I said, ' oh I think I'll have a scone with cream and jam, I deserve it! ' I then received a lecture about whether this was a wise thing to eat, do I need the calories and a comment along the lines of her 'being good' (dislike that term) and having nothing so why don't I have something substantial like eggs.

She food shamed me! Aibu to be irked by this?

Oddly enough I was having a conversation along these lineswith DH this morning.

My aunt is obsessed with 'health; and calories and bangs on about it all the time. I was cutting up a banana for breakfast this morning and it reminded me of the time she told me off for eating a WHOLE banana because they have so many calories and it was greedy.

WTF?

(said aunt is also famous in our house for trying to stretch 5 salmon fillets among 7 adults and 2 toddlers.)

I find people who go on and on about food very dull. I'm slim and eat what I want. Sometimes I am healthy. Sometimes I eat scones with cream and jam. I am happy and slim.

If she's the food police I just wouldn't go out to eat with her. I had a similar stumbling block with a friend who always made a comment about our house (something which needs sorting). It irks me so I don't need to hear it from her. She doesn't get invited here now. Everyone is happy.

Euphemia my mum is just like yours she has disordered eating and even going fot a coffee is a chore she will have cake want everybody to share it then say this is pure greed say to a dd are you really going to eat ALL that cake its bloody exhausting.

Food commenters do my nut in!

We have a lady at work who has lost 2 stone through SW. She's done really well and looks great.

But she insists on commenting on everything people eat. Especially those of use also on diets.
Things is - I've also managed to lose 2 stone doing it my way!

Say what I do in the event of an unsolicited lecture. "What did I ask?"

As long as she wasn't the one paying for it then she has absolutely no right to comment.

And even if breakfast was her treat then........well she still shouldn't have commented.