Help advice needed ASAP

[chocolatecakemakesmefat]

More of a WWYD , Trying not to out myself here so may be a bit vague (mumsnet HQ) are welcome to look into this if they so wish as I'm being completely honest

My son has asd he's 3 1/2 he usually stays with his dad and his girlfriend at weekends , gf came to pick him up and he screamed and kicked and point blank refused to go wouldn't tell us why and kept saying he doesn't want to go anymore , we have been questioning him but trying to get anything out him is like pulling blood from a stone , he has told me and his gran this morning that stepmum is bad and hit him what do I do now he's supposed to be going there later and I'm worried (he went through a stage of saying everyone including me, nursery workers, the dog , his sister hits him so I'm a bit wary wether it's lies or not)
There was never any issue with him going before and he used to love going

Thank you I definetly will be speaking to proffesional and his dad before he goes anywhere

Just an update on what's happened seen said proffesional and he has put in a referral to social work as its a safeguarding issue , anybody any idea what happens now?

Maybe it is better this way. A third party professional has raised concerns after directly communicating with your DS. So it isn't you being difficult about contact but rather a neutral third party whose only involvement is dealing with your DS.

I imagine they'll be speaking to your ex and his GF. Keep calm, you've done absolutely the right thing seeking help. Hopefully it will turn out to be a misunderstanding, and quickly resolved, but if your DS's fears are founded, then they will help and support you in rearranging contact so that your son's best interests are foremost. I really feel for you, it's so worrying when your little one can't properly communicate to you exactly what is going on. Best of luck, and keep a cool head. GF is probably going to be unhappy about this development, and possibly ex also, but you haven't had any reasonable or valid reassurances from either of them so far. You've absolutely done the right thing.

Glad to hear it, hope things get better