He's fucked up my night and buggered off...

[gininteacupsandleavesonthelawn]

Ok, I'm 7 weeks Preg, shattered, feeling queasy and a bit emotional. This is both part of the problem and means I may be being unreasonable.

I was supposed to be out for a friends birthday dinner, DP golfing. I struggled to sleep last night, too hot, DP was out and came in around 1 so disturbed. As a result I felt like shit today so cancelled, we had thunder storms earlier so DP sad most likely not golfing. Talk of nice dinner, bath, early night.

Weather perks up late afternoon, Golf back on. I tell DP I'm disappointed as had hopes up re dinner, bath, early night- he says I can do all this anyway.

So now the problem, we're currently having downstairs bathroom ripped out and I hear him talking to builder as he leaves. Half an hour later builder shout to say he's leaving but as agreed with DP the plasterer will be here before 7. He didn't even ask or let me know. I've now got 2 random guys in the house, can't go for a bath (meaning I need to have one in morning to wash hair as shower currently ripped out). They're sanding, banging, back door open.

I actually feel like I could cry. I feel like he's been really selfish. AIOverreacting?

Ps. According to builder the tiler will be here on Saturday... Guess where DP is? golf and boys night out...

Crunchy - it was a dinner for his project team at work, him and a few of the other guys stayed out for some drinks. Our house is old and a bit noisy at night so I kept expecting each creak etc to be him so hard to settle (not his fault I know)

Just when I thought it couldn't get worse... I've just gone to get cheesecake out the fridge to cheer myself up and it went out of date yesterday

All the people saying that he shouldn't have agreed for the plasterer to come - are tradesmen much more available in your world than in mine? Presumably they can't come in the day as no one's in, so saying 'no' today might have meant having to wait weeks for another evening or weekend slot. I would have said yes in a flash too.

The cheesecake is probably fine. I certainly wouldn't bin it until I'd tried a bit

There is someone here almost all the time. DP works from home. The building work started on Monday and won't be complete until next week sometime.

TheDevil - I haven't binned the cheesecake, I'll get DP to test it when he gets home. I've been feeling so queasy I daren't risk it.

Noooooo! Do NOT bin the cheesecake without at least sniffing it!
it will probably be fine, people had to trust their noses and tastebuds years ago before Use By dates were invented.

Ignore me, my cheesecake anxiety was too late.

It's gorgeous m&s vanilla cheesecake - I had my strawberries and strawbs sauce ready to go too... Sob

No don't eat out of date food when you're pregnant!

Just eat the strawberries and the sauce

YANBU. Poor you. He's been an arse.

I could see myself wanting to cry in your situation too.

And even if you are hormonal - and why wouldn't you be at 7 weeks pregnant? - so what, the feelings still feel bloody real!

Try to let it go and focus on good stuff instead

New bathroom! New baby!!

Oh no, x post, fail, sorry op

Just taste a tiny bit, if it tastes ok then get stuck in!

I'd want the work finished as soon as possible, even if that means people in now

NO YANBU you said he'd turn it around if he was home well yes he could if he could also be pregnant at the same time!

How many times has he Played Golf this week/will have played Golf?

Do you get any time off?You work full time and you mentioned your DC does your DH help out at all?

I think you need to speak to him OP,tell him how your feeling,tell him what you'd have liked to happen.

I'm loving the heat at the moment but if it's as hot where you are as it is for us there's no way I'd be enjoying it whilst being pregnant and having work done on the house at the same time.
So I'm not surprised your not feeling great.

They're still here. I'm so desperate to sleep.

Oh no!...that's so unfair on you OP. He should have checked with you about the plasterer, he really should :-(

M&S Vanilla cheesecake....sigh....