Screaming children in summer gardens

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There is a house that backs on to several other houses mine being one of them. Every summer once the schools are out our gardens become no go zones. They have a few children who scream and scream and scream. You can't read a book, listen to music, or relax in the sunshine without your ears being assaulted.

I'm a mother and one of five myself, so by no means do I expect children to be quiet but the screeching, squeeling is constant and outrageous. Other neighbours (and it's not just my street but streets whose gardens are back to back with them separated by a jetty have asked them to please be reasonable. Somehow we are supposed to appreciate their chidrens' laughter. It's high pitched screaming that goes on for hours until I can't use my garden now, the noise is unbearable. AIBU or are the parents' for not teaching these children that they are cool to enjoy their gardens but to keep the screeching down? I chose my words carefully to accurately describe the noise. The parents just don't give a hoot.

Little bit of screeching is fine. All kids get worked up and excited. Someone should be telling them to calm down occasionally though IMO. For everyone's sake's.

No idea what you can do though OP. Except be brave and go round and have a non-confrontational chat.

We had screaming adults at 9pm last night. 2 minutes after i'd finally got a grizzling, throwing up, hot DD (2.5) to sleep, three 20 somethings from down the road decided to play tag up and down outside our house The two women screaming at the top of their bloody lungs FFS.

Aren't people lovely? I use earplugs now. It's the only way I can sleep at night.

The other night st about 1am I was woken by several adults splashing in the aforementioned paddling pool, yelling exuberantly, calling each other cunts and shouting at the dogs to shut the fuck up.

I so wanted to lean out of the window and yell "NO, YOU SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU INCONSIDERATE, ILL BRED SHOWER OF ARSEHOLES!!" before slamming the window shut.

But I contented myself with shutting the Windows like a normal person while glowering at them (which they didn't notice, it being 1am) and tutting hard enough to wake DH up.

I can't get too worked up about screaming kids. I suspect if you have a shrieker there isn't that much you can do about it, bar shutting them in the house all day which would be miserable.

Adults yelling and playing music in their gardens after 10pm though when I am trying to sleep and I can't wear earplugs as I need to be able to hear the baby.

There's no better sound that kids being outside in their gardens playing, laughing and having fun. I love it!
But..... constant screeching and screaming.
I yell at them to 'SHUT UP'
I haven't had to since we moved.
The kids here are rather quiet and don't seem to be out much.

You don't shut them in the house all day.

You bring them in until they've calmed down. Then you let them out again. Rinse/repeat until they've learned a bit of self control.

Barring SN it's perfectly possible.

CalmIt, are we neighbours? If there are lots of random garden fires then we could be.

YANBU

The sounds of children playing, laughing even shouting is one thing but screaming/screeching is a whole different kettle of fish. I do like your idea of recording the children and playing it back but not at 11pm, find out when the children go to bed and play it then instead. You might even like to give your neighbours copies so they can play it too

I wish parents would talk to other parents about this
As a non parent I feel I'm not allowed to

YABU, as long as it's not early in the morning or late at night.

Yes, it's the high pitched screaming, not just 'play noise' that really gets to you. Kids without SN should not be doing it past the baby/toddler stage. There was no way mine were allowed to. It would drive me crackers.

There has been a huge rise in the number of parents who don't give a damn about anyone else's comfort or convenience and think their kids should be allowed to do whatever they like wherever and whenever.

I suspect a lot of them are the types who secretly enjoy the fact that their kids are seriously annoying other people. I have known one or two like that.

One of them, who was well known for effing and blinding, took evident pleasure in telling my dd, at only 5, that there was no Father Christmas.

I responded by telling distraught dd that X was probably so naughty when she was little that FC never came, so no wonder she didn't believe in him.
Delighted to say it worked a treat. Recommending this tactic well in advance, in case of other mischief makers upsetting any of your little ones like this.

Turtle - don't think so. Seldom see fires thankfully!

Tbh I doubt if most of my neighbours have evolved enough to have mastered fire making.

YANBU

Next door but one has a young boy, he had his friend round today, and it was nice background noise today hearing their "adventures" at the top of the garden.

Unfortunately next door who we share a wall with, the seven year old girl screams, screams if she doesn't get her way, screams if she's happy, screams if she is being bossy.

This weeks delight is the full size basketball that is bounced for hours outdoors and in by both children, constantly.

Unfortunately, the mother also screams and swears at the dc, sometimes she catches herself when she thinks someone can hear, but she obviously doesn't realise it's a 70s house and we hear every scream, stomp up the uncarpeted stairs and the whole family jumping on a bed at 10pm on a school night

School holidays make no difference here so sympathies to all my fellow suffers.

I'm sure it won't be long before I catch them capering around a heap of blazing pallets, grunting "FUCKIN FIRE!!" at each other.

Yanbu at all.
I used to live near a school, i wish i still lived there!where i live now the neighbour has 3 kids and it's non stop screaming.
We can't sit in our gardens in the summer.
It's the screaming, shouting, trampolining. It goes on till 10pm some weekends. ( then when the kids are in bed the parents are in the garden making a racket and playing music till the early hours).