Drama over booking friends holiday

[MyShinyThing]

More of a "Who IBU" really!

Friend A has a big birthday coming up this year and said back in March that she would like to book a weekend break around the time of it and would like as many friends to come as possible.

Friend B said that she would be starting a new job at the beginning of the proposed month so wouldn't know her rota until then and also probably wouldn't be able to book the time off as it would be a new job.

Fast forward & friend A (who owns her own business) has managed to arrange cover for a particular weekend meaning she won't be losing money while she is away.

A asks B if she can make those dates, also says that others have said that they are fine.

B has gone off the deep end a bit, saying A has deliberately left her out of the planning (nothing planned except date at this point) and obviously only asked her as an afterthought. Says she still doesn't have her rota and feels like now she's been deliberately left out it would be best if she doesn't come anyway.

Next day B suddenly gets her rota and can come but only if it's the week before. A explains again about having cover for those dates and she can't change them.

B is now saying that it's clear that A is unwilling to be flexible about the date (even though she herself is not flexible). Says she can't make anymore effort than she already has, that she always goes out of her way for her friends but it's clear they don't feel the same way!

I feel like B has blown this out of all proportion and has now put a downer on the whole thing for A and has said some very hurtful things which could really affect the friendship.

Does B have a point do you think or is she just spitting her dummy out?

[DinosaursRoar]

I would say Friend B seems to think she is the most important attendee on this, not the birthday girl or the other friends. Most people would have taken her innitial comment to mean that she couldn't join in the planning and would join in if she could, she clearly thought that she was such a linchpin of the group that it was a given that no further planning would take place until she was able to confirm her dates.

[MyShinyThing]

Oh Redhat that does sound pretty awful, I'd be really hurt if I were family C! I hope you manage to sort it out.

I really hope it's not doomed Thumb, we've been friends over 10 years now & B is a great friend in between the occasional blows ups.

I think Hedgehog is right that she'll eventually realise she's unreasonable or she'll just get over it & possibly bring it up at a much later date to illustrate how badly treated she has been!

DH basically said the same thing Dinosaur and I had taken her early comments to mean she wasn't coming at all so was surprised when A even said she'd asked again!

It's far too hot for drama like this!