To ask what is the best self-help book you've ever read and how it changed your life?

[Flamingo1980]

I'm needing a big kick up the bum and to make big, permanent and positive changes in my life and so looking to you gorgeous people for your experiences and recommendations.
I'm currently reading 'The chimp paradox' which is brilliant but when I finish it I would like more books to get me on the right path.
What do you recommend?

You Need This book to Get What You Want by Mark Palmer and Scott Solder.

Brilliant NLP

How to Win Friends ....

The Seven Habits ...

Getting Things Done by David Allen

Run fat bitch RUN!

Who Moved My Cheese?

I would tread carefully with anything by Byron Katie. I have a friend who absolutely swears by 'the Work'. Said friend is currently stuck in an abusive relationship with a drug user because she's trying so hard to 'love what is'. She blames herself for all of their problems and tries to be happy in a shit situation instead of leaving. I honestly think this author's teachings are partly to blame. I've read one of the books myself and I also think that it's really obvious that her 'techniques', if they can even be called that, are built on very shaky premises indeed. People are not always 'projecting' when they have a problem, and it's not always possible (or desirable) to try to accept bad situations.

Easy way to stop smoking-not really what you're looking for but I've not smoked for over 5 years now so it was good for me!

This may have been mentioned buy I highly recommend 'Women Who Love Too Much' for anyone who has a pattern of getting into bad relationships.

It helped my mum a ton.

WIFI is on a go slow so haven't read the thread yet.

The ones I've found useful for myself was some CBT and OCD books.

Thank you for the warning about that Robotic

The Richard Templar books are great also... Rules of life, rules of work, rules of love etc etc. All highly recommended! I have the collection

Bumping to add Wifework to this list.

Following - great thread...

Why men lie and women cry, and another one by the same authors. Some of it really irritated me - I felt that half the time they were saying that men find it too hard to change, which is why women should change. But TBH I'm not sure whether that interpretation was influenced by my chronic depression at the time.

What really stuck with dh and me (we read them together) was what they said about the different male and female ways of communication. Typically, if a man hears a problem he wants to solve it, but when a women talks about a problem she wants to talk about it. So the two of them can, with all their love for each other and the best will in the world, really annoy each other, while they think that they are actually sharing and helping.

That, and other things about communication, focus and downtime, really changed the way dh and I communicate with each other.

Rich Dad Poor Dad. A lot of it is bollocks, and if I ever read the words "Rich Dad said..." again, I think I'll puke. But the overall message totally changed how I looked at money and motivated me to do what it takes to be financially secure.

Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill. Made us quite wealthy.

Brene Browne's Daring Greatly is amazingly good, she's a researcher on shame and it helped give me the courage to follow my dreams, get a teaching qualification, meet my now husband and just generally be a bit braver about friendships, money and everything really.

I am reading two at the moment so will throw them in.

Deep Work - about professional development in terms of selfishness improvement, really interesting.

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. This one is about female sexuality and it's absolutely phenomenal. It's not cheesy or clichéd at all, really challenging and interesting. If you've ever worried you might not be normal etc it's a good read.

A few years ago I read When Your Kids Push Your Buttons which is a parenting one, that's excellent too.

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Oh and yes you emily nagoski being a book on sex everyone should read

'Mind over mood', anything by John Gray- especially the 'children are from heaven' one, 'eat that frog', 'drop the pink elephant' Sarah ban breathnacht's 'simple abundance', 'mama Gena's school of womanly arts'

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