AIBU?

[Mumsy6216]

I am due to inherit a sum of money. DH and I have struggled for years and of course therefore most of the money will go into the family pot. However I have always (for thirty years) wanted to do a course which would us approximately 5% of the inheritance, the rest going into the family pot. DH thinks we should wait and see how the money sorts things out. AIBU to feel a little sad?

I think you should do it. When the money has gone you will still have the benefit of the course.

YANBU.

It's your inheritance. Do the course.

What is the course? Will it benefit you/the family in the future? It's your inheritance though, it wouldn't be selfish to spend something on yourself, especially such a small percentage.

YANBU to feel sad

But if money is that bad I would see what was left after you've got yourselves on your feet again.

Yes of course do the course.

Its not dh's inheritance it is YOURS do what you want to do first then see how things are if its something you have your heart set on doing

If the course will not affect your household income (eg giving up work to study) then you should go ahead and do it.
The inheritance is a "bonus" - without it you would still manage albeit with a bit of a struggle. So putting 95% of it in the pot would seem to be more than reasonable.

It's a course which would lead to employment in the long run. I could do it part time over two years or full time over a year thereby minimising the loss of income. The other 95% would pay off all other debts and pay a chunk towards the mortgage. Thank you everyone.

I think the 5% sounds like an investment - does that include the cost of the course plus loss of earnings etc?

Still as a long term investment I would be pretty insistant that I should be spending that money with his blessing. After all things are going to be so much easier with the other 95% what is his big issue?

I agree with Pearlman.
Generally, I think treating yourself with 5% of an inheritance is absolutely the right thing to do, but it will depend on quite what state your finances are in.

YANBU. I wouldn't have asked DH I would have told him my plans.
Life is way too short to not follow your ambitions and dreams. Not as if you're asking to spend the majority of the money off on your jollies or anything.
Does he know how important this is to you or how happy it would make you? I would sit him down and have a chat about your future plans and how it would be really good for you.
Happy wife is happy life after all!

I wouldn't be asking him, I'd be informing him. It's your inheritance. Yes, it's reasonable given you have debts for the majority to go towards paying them off, but your husband has no right to veto you spending it on one thing and not on another.

TWO AND A HALF YEARS OLD

@FEJ2016 why are you doing this

Sorry I don't understand ghostys 'why are you doing this'?

FEJ2016 Ghosty means why did you resurrect a thread from 2016?

and one from 2012, one from a year ago, and several others ?

Oh haha. I'm quite new to this I didn't realise these were old posts. I must have stumbled onto a weird part of the site because I just thought I was looking at current stuff. I apologise to mumsnetters all. I also didn't realise people got notifications from posts they were on. I certainly don't! But then I was just a bit bored killing time. Don't hate me :)

Agggggh!

you get one chance don't do it again !

I'm confused. What do you mean by stumbled on a strange part of the site?

Do it. You get one chance and you'd be no different without the Inheritance money

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