AIBU to not want a diamond ring?

[Hushabyelullaby]

Sorry if this is long, but I don't want to drip feed.

I have been with DH for almost 18 years and married for 10. I have a white gold, diamond solitaire, engagement ring, a white gold wedding ring, and a white gold and diamond eternity ring.

Nine years ago I became a wheelchair user, which has destroyed my engagement ring. I push myself around, and the ring has already had the claws (that hold the diamond in place) replaced 4 times, as the ring gets worn against the rims of my wheels. I have rubber grips covering them, so it's not like it's metal against metal.

On saturday the back of my earring dropped on the floor, or so I thought, my friend picked it up and said 'it's not an earring back, that's for sure', it was the diamond out of my engagement ring. I now find out that not only are the claws eroded, but that the diamond is cracked too, so basically it's not worth fixing the ring.

I have seen a lovely sterling silver and swarovski crystal engagement ring, which I would be quite happy to wear. Can people really tell the difference between platinum, white gold and silver? And tbh should it matter?

I understand silver is a harder metal than gold and would wear it down if worn together, so i'd need to replace my wedding ring (seen exactly the same one in sterling silver), and my eternity ring (seen similar). If I were to change them i'd obviously keep my surviving rings.

As you can see from the pic, the stone is set low in the ring and is not held in by claws but a solid circle of metal. The stone is a little larger than the diamond in my engagement ring was.

DH and I aren't bothered by how much things cost, to us it's the meaning behind them. So, WIBU to go for this as a replacement?

[carolynfa]

MoonStar07 Mon 18-Jul-16 22:39:08
How did your diamond crack?! I didn't know they could

Sorry to hear about the misfortune.
Diamonds can chip when struck with the right force along its crystalline plane. This article describes cracked diamonds nicely. Anyway, platinum is the preferred choice it the ring is going to take quite a bit of abuse from the wearer. It's more durable.

[RedGrapeCornSnake]

I would question the hardness of palladium. I replaced one of my stolen rings with a palladium one (the other 2 are white gold) the palladium one has bent so it's now more oval. I do not do anything physical wearing my rings so I've been really disappointed with palladium, I've barely had the ring a year