To be fucked off

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I'm early 30s and have been with my DP for 3 years. At work I have never discussed my thoughts either way re getting married. I'm
not actually that bothered either way. I think it would be nice to be married but I wouldn't actually want a wedding FWIW. Yet there are two female colleagues that repeatedly ask me. "When do you think he will propose?" Or every time we are about to go on holiday "Maybe he will propose?"

I've just had a weekend away and one of them (who I don't actually like and is the well know office gossip, fat shaming, all round mean girl) has mailed me, within minutes of my arrival "No ring? :)"

It's just made me irrationally angry. I feel like they think it's some kind of shameful thing that I'm not engaged or that I'm not validated until a man proposes to me.

AIBU to be really pissed off about this? Can someone give me a response that will ensure they stop hassling me?!?

People have given up asking with me now. I have no intention of getting married, I don't want a wedding, I don't want to be a wife, I'm quite happy. If I could do a civil partnership to tick the legal boxes I would.
I'm getting the huge rage with companies getting rid of 'miss' as a title option. I'm not ms, Mrs or dr I am miss.

Sorry I've gone on a bit there, but she's being a dick.

I couldn't really add anything but the Gollum responses are wonderful!

Is it me or are people getting ruder? Can't believe you got that email. People like that need to get a life. Why are they bothered?
They are like mean girls. Don't get involved.

Once had a colleague who badgered me about when would I be getting pregnant. I told him I'd have to consommate the marriage first . He blushed bright red and never ever asked again!

I've had this for ages, DP and I have been together for 10 years and are very happy unmarried, but apparently we aren't a proper couple until we've pissed money away on a certificate!? Does my head in.

When I got pregnant I was actually asked by two separate 'friends' if it was an accident as we aren't married
It's hard to reply to though, if you tell them it's rude to ask etc. I've found you tend to receive pitying looks as if you are some poor love struck woman just waiting for him to ask

Sorry it's taken me ages to reply. Today was none stop at work.

Thanks for responses!!  particularly like the gollum responses and the cock rings. 

I didn't reply in the end, mainly as I was too busy. But I think when she asks next (which will be sooner rather than later) I will go with the passive aggressive angle. "No not yet, but you'll be the first to know as I realise how invested/obsessed you are"

Toolong re your comment that you're afraid to say something as people assume it's what you really want and give you the pity...yes! 200% This is why I bite my tounge... It's like they CAN'T believe that a woman might take themselves seriously without a ring on their finger. Ideas above our station see the response from triptrap upthread for instance.

I will keep you updated.