We live a long distance from DHs hometown (like 5-6 hours).
We used to go there a lot, every Christmas, anniversaries, weddings, birthdays (even for mine once - still don't know why), long weekends, full weeks...
I have used dozens of days of annual leave and tons of money to do this - I have always hated going. I found PIL very difficult and their home very uncomfortable ( sleeping on floors etc) and all we did was sit indoors as they didn't like going out- it's really made me hate the place.
On top of this none of his family ever came to us bar a very small number of times on the basis it was easier for us (not true) and was inconvenient! He has a few friends but again it's always had to be us going to see them (I should point out we have lots more room than anyone there).
I have put up with this because of the distance for DH and when both his parents and grandparents died I vowed I was done going there.
The last few years we went up with DC I thought he had changed his mind about how great it was as its so noisy, busy, hard to find things to do.
Now he wants to go there for our summer holidays! I don't want to go!
There are a few relatives left, some of them I have hardly ever seen as they couldn't be bothered to make time/effort to see us when we were there.
I would be happy to go when DC were older to see where DH was from etc and much more to do for older children. I don't want to take DC to a city..
I want to go somewhere with a beach!