to ask you for some harsh responses for getting over massive girl crush

[WhatTheFuckDoIDoNow]

Hi all, have posted in relationships but feel I would benefit from a harsh AIBU style response! I am new to mumsnet but am not from the Daily Fail (wish I was as would be easier than this). Basically I have a massive girl crush on a female colleague. Both of us straight (or so thought) and are close work friends. I can't leave my job and it is a small department. How do I stop thinking about ripping her clothes off ? This has never happened to me before and I feel ridiculous .

Weren't you contemplating a threesome on the other thread, if so it seems like you're just a bit bored on a Sunday and want to get coverage over on AIBU having exhausted the patience of posters on Relationships.

What.solution.do.you.expect.us.to.give??

I'm not the OP of that other thread . My thread is called massive crush on senior female colleague (don't know how to link, sorry). Started a new one on here as thought harsher responses also useful although there is some truth in what you wrote Worra.

Adjustable it is definitely about the senior thing as for a long time she was a sort of role model, I suppose I idolised her.

Anyway, I promise, I have my grip.

Please stop boring Mumsnet to death with your cliched (and probably fictional) fantasy. Thanks.

Absolutely what bibbitybobbity has said. You're behaving like a twat, OP. Imagine your husband posting what you have - on this and relationships board. Making a huge joke of his marriage as you are.

It's not amusing, you sound like a creep and, if there was any way that you could get away with this, or that the woman had feelings for you, I think you would. That's how you come across. Vapid, vacuous and selfish.

Stop behaving as this is some kind of drama that you are the star of and focus on your work and your marriage. Let this woman get on with hers.

For the record, I'm usually quite fair in my postings to OW but not when they're auditioning for the role as you are. You're being pathetic.

To be fair, the OP hasn't actually done anything. She's had thoughts. There's nothing unfaithful about thoughts.

Really? Imagine a man posting what OP has. He'd have his arse handed to him by every poster.

This drama has taken two threads... doesn't take much imagination to realise that OP is a bit unclear about her boundaries here otherwise she'd be giving her head a shake like the rest of us and just getting her head down at work instead of mooning about like a creep..

Ah well, if you idolised her, it's probably a classic case of transference - so really it's all about your mother or your father. Your relationship with your parents is the key here. Maybe you could think about what your relationship with your mother was like when you were a child (perhaps when you were the same age your own children are now)?

Sorry to contradict you about your other thread but you are in denial if you don't remember posting that you are going to talk to your DH about getting together including this other woman! And people over there were saying how your poor DH is having to put up with your behaviour.

Fine if you want a bit of fantasy, but please at least bear in mind you can't rewrite history that easily.

Forget the grip, just think about the person in your life you are meant to be commited to. It may be a laugh to you, but you aren't the only person involved.....

Jesus! You did ask for harsh, but even so....

Can you not just turn it down a few notches, and then enjoy it for the harmless crush it is?

Nothing you've posted here makes me think for a second that you'd ever see anything through.

What the hell? Seriously, that is not my thread!! Although the usernames are similar. Anyway, thanks for all responses - I mean that - I just needed a head shake and I have that now. I'm leaving this now as I'm sure people are bored already. Adjustable I've PMd you.

I also got you mixed up with the poster on relationships OP, apologies.

Off the wall suggestion, take her clothes off?

Hey let's have a group hug! I cocked up too. Sorry

Forget the Girl crush OP have a MNer crush instead xx

Happy to do group hug , I did ask for harsh responses after all!

I know, but it's too hot to be harsh